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Net BPD Myth Debunking from “Tides…”
A few weeks ago I discovered the “Tides of Crazy Love Blog,” which is written by someone I “know” (meaning I know her via an email board). I LOVE her writing. I really do. Recently, she started “debunking” Internet myths and misunderstanding about BPD. More power to her! Here is an excerpt from her debunking the “Rules of Engagement” from BPD411.org (the first paragraph comes from BPD411.org): “Rule #5: If at any time the Non figures out the Rules of Engagement for BPD Land, the BPD’er must change the situation, rewrite history, and thereby purchase the Non a one way ticket back to BPD Land.” (BON Note: this is excerpted…
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Book Review of WHINE from “Tides of Crazy Love”
The author of this book, Bon Dobbs, is the founding leader of my online google support group – ATSPGroup. His wife has been diagnosed with BPD and his daughter struggles with emotional dysregulation similar to that of BPD. When I found this group, I had just come away from the Welcome To Oz group known as WTO-Staying. I was tremendously discouraged (support-wise), because the folks there just didn’t seem to “get” this disorder… from my perspective as a suffer and as a non to my BPDH. There were a few informed folks who were seriously trying to explain the underlying fears and irrational thoughts behind BPD, but most of the…
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What separates my book from SWOE and other popular Non-BP Books?
What separates my book from SWOE and other popular Non-BP Books? Well, first of all… I am still with my BP wife of almost 20 years. Many books (including “One way ticket to Kansas”, “Tears and Healing” and “Stop Walking on Eggshells”) are written by people who are no longer with their “BP’s.” I have found a way to live peacefully beside my BP (diagnosed BTW). Also, I actually tell you exactly HOW to talk with your BP, to effectively deal with someone with BPD – unlike these other books. I tell you exactly what to say and how to say it. I tell you how to get your feelings…
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Boundaries and their effective use
Well, well, well… I don’t know why but apparently I continue to be a subject at WTO. Weird. I posted about this a few days ago. I’ve been out of touch with the blog for a few days, while I do family stuff and take care of my email list. I really admire the people on my list; they do a great job of being both honest and validating with one another – while at the same time providing constructive advice to one another. Boundaries… I’ve posted about boundaries many times before. I think boundaries are one of the most misunderstood concepts in the non-BP/BP relationship. While it is difficult…
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Biology, Blame, Borderline Personality Disorder, Emotions, Odds and Ends, Resources, Stats, Validation
Follow the Yellow Click Road
Apparently, someone over at Welcome to Oz (WTO) Internet list posted a message asking about me and what I am all about concerning BPD and Non-BPs. This lead to a huge spike in traffic with my average number of accesses basically doubling over the weekend. I’m still a member of WTO, so I decided to login and take a look at what people are saying about me over there. I haven’t posted in years and haven’t logged in in months. Obviously, there are many, many new people who have no idea who I am or what I’m about. There are a few members still hanging around who do remember me.…
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I haven’t bought/read it yet, but here’s a children’s book for kids with a BP mom
I stumbled across this children’s book, An Umbrella for Alex, which is a book for kids trying to understand mom’s BPD behavior. Like I said, I haven’t bought it or read it. Maybe one of you would like to and drop me a message as to how effective it is (or is not). I know my kids know when (as my daughter puts it) “mommy’s doing it” – which I know she means that mom is acting an an impulsive BPD-like fashion. I’m a little wary of the book though. It comes from the Personality Disorder Awareness Network (PDAN) of which I have never heard. It would seem that in…