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Talking about mental health destigmatises it

It’s often said that one of the best ways to tackle prejudice against those with mental health problems is for people to speak openly about their mental health.

Talking about mental health destigmatises it

Clare Allan Tuesday 4 June 2013

In my experience, speaking out helps people with mental health problems to reveal themselves as [...]

Mental Illness May Be Detected in Online Gaming Partner

Behaviors associated with mental illness can be picked up on by a healthy person playing an online strategy game with someone they’ve never met.

Mental Illness May Be Detected in Online Gaming Partner

By Traci Pedersen Associate News Editor

Behaviors associated with mental illness can be picked up on by a healthy person playing an [...]

Funding an education campaign

I am funding an education campaign… http://fundanything.com/en/campaigns/emotional-agility-online

Bon (me) is funding the creation of an online learning course for people to learn Emotional Agility. What I have learned over the past 8 years of this blog and last 7 years of operating the ATSTP online support list is that these skills, enumerated in When Hope [...]

How mentalization skills can help children at risk

Mentalization lets kids consider situations from many points of view

Thinking About Thinking May Help At-Risk Children Mentalization lets kids consider situations from many points of view Published on May 18, 2013 by Kristi Pikiewicz, PhD in Meaningful You

Imagine that you have arrived at a museum to view an Ancient Grecian statue. Your experience, [...]

May is Borderline Personality Disorder Month

May is Borderline Personality Disorder Month, a time to recognize the symptoms of borderline personality disorder and the possibilities for treatment.

According to the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder, borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness that centers on the inability to manage emotions effectively. The disorder occurs in the context [...]

Tips For Teaching Teens Compassion, Empathy

Independence is earned by demonstration of responsible behavior. In other words, if your teen is responsible by consistent demonstration of getting his homework finished on time, coming home before curfew, going to sleep and rising on time—then he should be rewarded with increments of extra freedom and independence.

Tips For Teaching Teens Compassion, Empathy (link)

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Removing stigma of ‘mental illness’

When you hear the word “psychiatric hospital,”what do you think of? Do you think of a place for insane people who pose a danger to themselves and everyone around them?

 

Removing stigma of ‘mental illness’ By Kevin Doerzman, kevin.doerzman@iowastatedaily.com | Posted: Thursday, April 18, 2013 12:00 am

When you hear the word “psychiatric hospital,”what [...]

Does my mom have BPD?

My mother has always been unstable and scary. Could she have borderline personality disorder?

Dear Cary,

I’ve been reading your column for years and it’s helped me a lot. Thank you for that.

A recent suggestion that a daughter-in-law who throws outrageous tantrums at the end of visits might have a borderline personality disorder really [...]

Emotional Regulation (or lack of) and you (the loved one)

Some commentary from WHINE:

With BPD, the messages that are sent are sometimes not in tune with the actual environment – there may indeed be no basis in reality for her reactions. An ancient Hindu text characterizes this “misperception” of reality in the following manner: “A rope may be momentarily perceived as a snake before [...]

Hallmarks of psychiatric illness can reveal themselves remotely

Games and BPD

The researchers discovered that healthy people and those with borderline personality disorder displayed different patterns of behavior while playing an online strategy game, so much so that when healthy players played people with borderline personality disorder, they gave up on trying to predict what their partners would do next.

Hallmarks of [...]