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Get 15% off When Hope is Not Enough from the publisher

I am offering a 15% discount on my book When Hope is Not Enough if you order it from the publisher (LuLu). That’s $16.96 versus $19.95 retail at Amazon right now. To order from Lulu follow this link.

 

Quote from “Back from the Edge” Documentary

The mother of one of the young women with BPD says this: “What really helped me was when I realized that it wasn’t about me, that I wasn’t necessarily what she was angry at and the target of it, that I was just there to be somebody that she could vent all of this feeling [...]

Chennai’s family courts grapple with poorly qualified counselors – India and BPD

The U.S., Canada and U.K. are not the only countries that deal with borderline personality disorder (BPD). I can only image the numbers in India. Here’s an article about Indian courts dealing with a woman whose husband was diagnosed with BPD:

Chennai’s family courts grapple with poorly qualified counsellors Ekatha Ann John, TNN Oct 1, [...]

Bad Amazon Reviews and what they reveal about people (and about me)

About 2 weeks ago, I got another 1 star review on Amazon for my book When Hope is Not Enough. When I read that review, I realized that many people don’t understand my book well. Perhaps it’s my writing or perhaps it’s in their reading. I certainly know that my book will not just tell [...]

Ask Bon: How do I balance validating somebody’s feelings with protecting myself or my children from emotional abuse?

Q: How do I balance validating somebody’s feelings with protecting myself or my children from emotional abuse?

A: This is an excellent question and one that I have grappled with for years. My wife’s behavior before I started down the path to effectiveness was off-the-charts and was affecting my children’s feelings of safety in our [...]

A Review of WHINE by someone with BPD

The other day I received a review on Amazon about my book When Hope is Not Enough from an individual who identified himself as a person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Here’s the text of the review:

Got BPD? Get This! Great for Everyone Who Needs Validation!, June 16, 2011

I have BPD and I [...]

Are bloggers and authors about BPD biased?

I don’t usually like to defend myself. In fact, in my book, I have a tool that says “Don’t Defend”. Interestingly, in the Essential Family Guide to BPD, Randi Kreger has the same tool. Yet, I am feeling the need to correct something that Randi has said over at her Psychology Today “Stop Walking on [...]

Being Right vs Being Effective

In When Hope is Not Enough I have a section in the “getting ready for the tools” chapter that talks about being effective, rather than being right. I’d like to post a large excerpt from that section to illustrate what I want to talk about today. The most important part of this section of the [...]

When Hope is Not Enough now available on the Nook

My book When Hope is Not Enough: a how-to guide for living with and loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder is now available on Barnes and Noble’s Nook. Now the book is available in most electronic platforms including the Kindle, the Nook, the iPad and in PDF form to read on a computer. It is [...]

WHINE sells over 100 copies in a month

I am pleased to announce that When Hope is Not Enough: a how-to guide for living with and loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder sold over 100 copies last month for the first time since the first month of it’s publication. I have received many messages from my readers about how helpful the book can [...]