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Confirmation of IAAHF
A few days ago, I saw some confirmation of “it’s all about his/her feelings” come across the ATSTP Email Support List. A woman who has been a member for a while posted this about her husband with BPD: When I asked my H why he thinks he would never fall back on his old ‘opiate’ (other women) he said this: “because I realized it only made me feel sh*ttier about myself and fall into a dark and self-loathing place, feeling that way is the ugliest experience I’ve ever had – and I felt that way for too long.” I didn’t like that answer at first. I wanted to hear “because it was…
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First Search on IAAHF
I coined the phrase “It’s All About His/Her Feelings” (IAAHF) as a mentalization tool to understand the MOTIVATION behind much of the confusing behavior of those with BPD. Last week, I got the first search engine search on IAAHF. See below: As you can see, I also get lots of searches on “famous people” or “celebrities” with BPD. I only post those types of articles to relate to those with BPD and their families that perhaps they are not alone in their struggles – perhaps (again it’s a maybe because the closest celebrity to actually come out and say he/she has BPD is Megan Fox – who speculated about it).…
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What BPD Feels Like
Excellent article about what BPD feels like: What BPD Feels like A lot of friends and family members want to understand what the BPD sufferer is going through, but they don’t have a proper understanding of what is actually happening. For the BPD sufferer it is hard to explain what it feels like when honestly, they don’t know exactly what it is that isn’t “normal”. People around the BPD sufferer know that something isn’t right with the person, but quite often the sufferer does not know there is anything wrong, which is why they can attack you when you suggest there may be. As a BP sufferer myself, I can…
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Holy Moly! An article about the girl who doused her face in acid that actually gets it!
When I saw this article come through the Google news alerts I thought: “Oh no, an article that’s going to say ‘she did it for attention’ because she has BPD and they are attention-seeking.” I was mightily surprised when I read the article and realized that here’s someone that actually knows what she’s talking about. Why would Bethany Storro douse herself in acid? Experts try to explain When news broke Thursday that a Vancouver woman admitted dousing herself with powerful acid, causing severe facial burns, one question reverberated: Why would anyone do such a thing? Friday, a leading researcher in the field of self-harm discounted theories that Bethany Storro, 28,…
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Anna Nicole Smith and BPD
Article that mentions BPD and Anna Nicole Smith…. Doctor: Anna Nicole Smith medication ‘overkill’ By LINDA DEUTSCH (AP) – 3 days ago LOS ANGELES — A hospital psychiatrist testified Friday that medication given to Anna Nicole Smith by a doctor now on trial was “overkill” for the kind of pain she was describing. Dr. Nathalie Maullin said she believed Smith had “a borderline personality disorder” and was addicted to prescription medications. Maullin said she was on staff at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in April 2006 when Smith was brought in pregnant and in withdrawal from anti-anxiety drug Xanax and the pain killer Methadone. The celebrity model told her she had gone…
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Tough Love is not an effective approach to BPD
Tough Love is not an effective approach with children and teenagers with Borderline Personality Disorder. Although some therapists and self-help authors recommend tough love as what should be done with BPD, it is ultimately detrimental to the borderline and to your relationship with the borderline. The problem comes in regarding the nature of the disorder. While behavioral therapies can work, those based on reinforcement and shaping, those therapies usually include acceptance strategies and non-judgmental approaches. The nature of BPD is that the individual with the disorder is in deep emotional pain because of the dysregulation of the emotional system. They are exquisitely sensitive to emotional experiences and many of these…