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BPD and Lying
Recently, I have had about 20% of the searches on this site involve someone trying to find out about lying. These searches included: “pathological liar”, “BPD and Lying”, “why does bpd lie?”, etc. It seems one on the most difficult things for the non to accept is BPs lying. Here is a note I posted on WTO some time ago about lying – I think it still applies. As for lying, I believe that all people lie (or are willing to lie) when the truth is too painful to be told – even if that feeling of pain is not based in reality. Do BPs lie more than other people?…
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Runaway Shame?
I made another realization recently. When I am depressed, I don’t know what makes me sad, but I feel sad (it’s worse than “sad” but that’s the general family). I imagine that when people get panic disorder they fear fear for “no reason”. So, I was thinking – perhaps depression is when sadness goes haywire, panic when fear goes haywire and BPD (or ERD, or whatever the disorder is called) is when shame goes haywire. It’s not like there is a “valid external reason” to feel shame. They just DO. But often they look for external reasons. It’s a theory anyway… No related posts.
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Versions of Shame
Versions of Shame Version A) they are just born that way. THEY are not even sure of what they are ashamed of. They carry around three core beliefs: “The world is dangerous and malevolent”, “I am powerless and vulnerable” and “I am inherently unacceptable.” But they don’t know WHY – they have just always been that way. The only reason that I can gather is that they have labile emotions and they lead to an unstable sense of self. That instability is what they are ashamed of (and scared anyone and everyone will know). It’s like a nightmare in which you’ve pissed your pants and you hope to god no…
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Role of Shame in BPD
A very good article about the role of shame in BPD. I have said many times how shame plays a central role in BPD. Frankly, I feel that shame feelings are biological in BPD. In the article he says abuse is the cause, but I feel that shame in BPD is like sadness in clinical depression – it just exists even if there is no cause. Maybe there are two types of BPD, one that is biological and one that is caused by abuse? Or maybe the one that is caused by abuse is PTSD and not BPD? Anyway, here is an excerpt: Dr. Donald Nathanson has pioneered the study…
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BPD and Purge Schemas
In a recent review of blogs about Borderlines – to see what else is out there and to review myths that are being put forth on the Internet – I found this comment about BPD: Beck and Freeman (1990) describe three core cognitive schema present in BPD as “The world is dangerous and malevolent”, “I am powerless and vulnerable” and “I am inherently unacceptable.” Beck is a CBT theorist who sets forth the “schema” approach to fixing the self. DBT uses the “emotional dysregulation” approach. What I found interesting about the above quote is that borderlines themselves identify with it as if it completely describes them. Clearly, the shame aspect…
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Toxic Shame
An article about the many manifestations of shame. …study of James Masterson’s work on borderline personalities, as well as my experience with watching his working films, convinces me that there is minimal difference in the treatment of some toxically shame-based people and his treatment of the Borderline Personality. Don’t see shame in your borderline? Look more carefully.http://www.soulselfhelp.on.ca/tshame.html No related posts.
