Versions of Shame

Versions of Shame

Version A) they are just born that way. THEY are not even sure of what they are ashamed of. They carry around three core beliefs: “The world is dangerous and malevolent”, “I am powerless and vulnerable” and “I am inherently unacceptable.” But they don’t know WHY – they have just always been that way. The only reason that I can gather is that they have labile emotions and they lead to an unstable sense of self. That instability is what they are ashamed of (and scared anyone and everyone will know). It’s like a nightmare in which you’ve pissed your pants and you hope to god no one will notice. That’s the shame component as far as I can tell. It’s not about anyone other than themselves.

Version B) Same as version A but caused by the environment.

Oh and version C – mix and match versions A & B.