A new book: The power of validation
I read the Kindle version of the Power of Validation. It was very good. It is focused on parenting emotionally sensitive children. I recommend it to parents of emotionally sensitive children. See larger image The Power of Validation: Arming Your Child Against Bullying, Peer Pressure, Addiction, Self-Harm, and Out-of-Control Emotions (Paperback) New From: $13.24 USD In Stock No related posts.
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An ATSTP list member responds to a question of whether another’s borderline wife will ever change because of emotional validation: I found validation isn’t as effective until the underlying agenda tilts more towards acceptance rather than change. This may sound strange, but after we accept that the situation may not change (and behave accordingly), it then grows room to change. No related posts.
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