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Validation Article from DBT’s perspective
Here is an interesting article on emotional validation for parents of people with BPD… from a new blog about understanding DBT. Dialectical Behavior Therapy Validation Strategies for Parents By Christy Matta, MA How Do We Validate Validation and active listening techniques are specific ways of approaching your child to increase cooperation and balance the change we are often asking for from our children. 1. Responsiveness: Addressing our children with interest in what they are saying, doing and understanding. Expressing concern about his or her wishes and needs. 2. Warm engagement: Approaching kids with warmth and friendliness. Active positive communication with our voice, tone and posture. 3. Self-Disclosure: Communicating our own…
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DBT, MBT and the Behavioral Chain
One of the things I have noticed about Dialectical Behavior Therapy Family Skills versus Mentalization Based Skills is that they operate at a different link on the behavioral chain. In “When Hope is Not Enough” I have a section called “the BPD Dynamic.” What this dynamic outlines is a behavioral chain. That chain goes like this: Event -> Interpretation -> Emotional/Physical Feelings -> Action Impulses -> Expression and Behavior DBT-FST seems to me to operate at the Action Impulses to Expression and Behavior link, while validating the Emotional/Physical Feelings link. Don’t get me wrong, the DBT-FST skills are extremely powerful in communicating with someone with BPD. Yet, the change that…
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Cheerleading as an effective relationship skill
Unfortunately, the concept of cheerleading is something that I mention in WHINE, but I left out as a tool for a Non-BP/BPD relationship. I mention it when talking about what NOT to do in when a person with BPD is emotionally dysregulated (or experiencing an EDM – emotional dysregulation moment). I am planning on providing a “supplement” to WHINE on this website when I finish working on it. I left out a few things that can be effective in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, and these things have come up in the ATSTP Email Support Group. So, I’ve decided to address one of these, cheerleading, now. Not…
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Some resources on the web
I have discovered some resources on the web that may help those with BPD (and those nons who are in a relationship with someone with BPD). These resources are: Mass General Hospital Mood Charting (thanks to Tides…) DBT Skills Help: Emotional Regulation Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com … from Borderline Personality From the Inside Out Mindfulness Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com Distress Tolerance Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com DBT Family Skills Training… from middle-path.org You can gain access to more DBT resources, to other pertinent files, and to advice from me and other group members by joining the ATSTP (Anything to Stop the Pain) Google Email List. No related posts.
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PUVAS and DBT Skills
PUVAS is an acronym that comes from “Stop Walking on Eggshells” it means: Pay attention Understand fully Validate emotions Assert yourself Shift responsibility where it belongs Paying attention to what is being helps us avoid making assumptions. Understanding what someone is trying to communicate may require seeking clarification so we don’t make assumptions. Validating the emotional statements of the other person will pave the way for further smooth communications. Asserting yourself is a form of setting boundaries and is a very important piece of the healthy communication process. [amazonshowcase_aae6001f3f5766bb5a55f3fb147c3088] Basically, it is similiar to a combination of DEAR MAN and the GIVE skills from DBT. DEAR MAN is extremely helpful for have…
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DBT for the Family?
An article on DBT training for family members of borderlines: Individual DBT has addressed the problems of the individual’s emotional vulnerability (high sensitivity, high reactivity, slow return to baseline) component by intervening directly with the individual patient. Although interventions with family members are briefly noted in the original treatment manual, standard DBT does not directly attempt to affect the second component of the etiological model for BPD and related disorders, namely, that of the invalidating environment. There are several levels of adapting DBT that are possible. First, one could simply apply DBT essentially intact to new populations (for example, to battering men; Fruzzetti, Rubio, & Thorp, 1998). Or, one could…