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What holds us back before we start – From When Hope is Not Enough
The skills I offer in this book are counter-intuitive. They go against many of the things that we have been taught to believe about relationships. What holds us back before we start I often see on my support list “newbies” who are not teachable. They arrive at the list seemingly willing to listen to the experienced members, yet in reality they subconsciously feel they have it all figured out. The experience of the “old timers” is extraordinarily valuable. In fact, that experience is the greatest asset available on the list. It is why I decided to revise this book to reflect the teaching from the sharing of that experience. Many…
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Why I called the book “When Hope is Not Enough”
In 2007, I wrote the first edition of When Hope is Not Enough. When considering the title, I landed on this one because it rings true to a person who is a supporter and loved one of a person who meets the criteria of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Back when I wrote the book, there were very few books on the subject (only about 2-3) and the most popular of the books – the one recommended by therapist across my country (US) and which had sold hundreds of thousands of copies – had been ineffective in my life. I just found that the skills offered in that book worked at…
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Emotional Agility as a Tool to Help Teens Manage Their Feelings
Emotions are not good or bad — they just are.Emotions are not good or bad — they just are. Emotional Agility as a Tool to Help Teens Manage Their Feelings By Deborah Farmer Kris FEBRUARY 28, 2017 Navigating the ups and downs of the teenage years has never been easy, as young adults manage a lot of changes that are hormonal, physical, social and emotional. Teens could use help during this period; according to a recent study, the prevalence of depression in adolescents has increased in the last decade. One way teens can manage these experiences, according to psychologist Susan David, is by equipping teens with the emotional skills to…
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Author sheds light on van Gogh’s illness
“Borderline personality disorder is a relatively new diagnosis, which was officially described for the first time in 1980,” she continues a little later. “It was first suggested as a possible cause of van Gogh’s condition in the late 1990s.” Author sheds light on van Gogh’s illness Reviewed by Aaron W. Hughey “On the Verge of Insanity: Van Gogh and His Illness” by Nienke Bakker, Louis van Tilborgh and Laura Prins. New Haven: Yale University Press, 2016. 176 pages, $30. “The dramatic moment when Vincent van Gogh cut off his ear and his subsequent suicide are among the best-known events in his life and, for many, the most fascinating,” Nienke Bakker…
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Ignore Your Feelings
We certainly share a lot with DBT, a kind of CBT for people who have intensely destructive feelings—dialectic behavioral therapy. Particularly because it started out with the idea that it was directly for people who were suffering terribly. Ignore Your Feelings A profanity-filled new self-help book argues that life is kind of terrible, so you should value your actions over your emotions. OLGA KHAZAN SEP 9, 2015 Put down the talking stick. Stop fruitlessly seeking “closure” with your peevish co-worker. And please, don’t bother telling your spouse how annoying you find their tongue-clicking habit—sometimes honesty is less like a breath of fresh air and more like a fart. That’s the…
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Nasty Divorce: A Kids Eye View (An Excerpt)
Her mother was finally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Meredith still deals with the aftermath of abuse and parental alienation. Nasty Divorce: A Kids Eye View (An Excerpt) SEPTEMBER 25, 2015 BY MARINA SBROCHI Marina Sbrochi hopes to incite behavior change by sharing the experiences of children and damaging effects of high conflict divorce. MEREDITH’S STORY Meredith’s parents divorced when her older sister was three and her mother was pregnant with her. She had been told varying stories of why her father hadn’t been in their lives. It began with her mother telling her from as early as she can remember that her father denied fathering her and wanted nothing…