Walking on Eggshells Quiz
A quiz to find out if you’re “walking on eggshells” around your partner:
If you find that you are, and think that your partner has Borderline Personality Disorder traits. I suggest you check out the resources that I provide on this site – that is, if you want to stay with your partner and want to learn how to make things easier and better. “Stop Walking on Eggshells” is a great title for a book; however, the book itself will not teach you the skills necessary to stay in the relationship effectively. I have found that the skills in that book (commonly known as SWOE) actually breed resentment and further division in a partner relationship. I know because I tried those skills, and they made things much worse.
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3 Comments
Randi Kreger
Which skills on which pages, Bon, did you try? I will make sure I revise those to make them clearer.
Randi Kreger
Randi @BPDCentral.com
Author, “The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells”
(Available at http://www.BPDCentral.com)
non-BP
I think ‘stay & help’ or ‘divorce’ is an example of black & white thinking. I separated from my wife, and I want to help her. I’m working on validation & compassion. I’m still sensitive to her pressing my buttons, and find having my own place allows me to limit my interactions with her until I’m ready to deal with her behavior. It’s been great for me not living in the crazy house all the time!
Despite her initial threats of ‘separation means divorce’, we remain married. With improvement in the relationship on both sides I can see us reconciling in the future.
dc
I think you may be fooling yourself, the crazy house as you put it is only bareable because your not living in it. As soon as you return the pain anguish and suffering WILL return. I think your reaching for the ever tempting urge to forgive and forget. What your really “forgetting” is this is a personality disorder and the only way for it to be resolved in the context of YOUR reality is to eliminate it and consequently the source of “it” from your life. Then again, its your life, do what you want to… just saying… Black and white thinking? Absolutley.