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DBT Skill of the Day: IMPROVE the moment from the Distress Tolerance Module
Many of us have distress and frustration in our lives. Your car keys are lost. You don’t have enough money to pay the bills. A friend rejects you when you ask to go out on Saturday night. You get a flat tire on the way to a big meeting. Stuff happens in life. Sometimes you can do something about it. Sometimes you can’t. In the world of kratom, Red Maeng Da Kratom is one of the most famous strains available – and one of the kratom strains most commonly used for its energizing and stimulating benefits as opposed to its work as a sedative. To know More about the author…
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Validation and Empowerment: The necessary balance for self help
Steven Stosny has a (fairly) new post on “Validation and Empowerment” which covers emotional validation vs. the empowerment necessary to change for the better. I like Stony’s work quite a bit and I agree that there is a balance between emotional validation and empowerment. When dealing with people that have been emotionally invalidated, it is my opinion that the balance initially should be tipped toward emotional validation. This is why DBT adds acceptance to the mix. If everything needs to change all at once, the thought of changing everything seems overwhelming and nothing changes – there’s no empowerment to improve and become effective. Instead, the person is stuck in helplessness. In my…
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A new book: The power of validation
I read the Kindle version of the Power of Validation. It was very good. It is focused on parenting emotionally sensitive children. I recommend it to parents of emotionally sensitive children. No related posts.
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Levels of Emotional Validation
Here is a nice article on the levels of emotional validation. I’ve written on this subject before, but this article/blog post offers a nice, fresh perspective. Understanding the Levels of Validation By KARYN HALL, PHD Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., from the treatment creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy, identified six levels of validation and noted that she believes it is impossible to overestimate the importance of validation. If you care about someone who is emotionally sensitive, validation is one of the most important and effective skills you can learn. If you are an emotionally sensitive person, then learning to validate yourself will help you manage your emotions effectively. Linehan suggests using the…
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A comment on change vs acceptance
An ATSTP list member responds to a question of whether another’s borderline wife will ever change because of emotional validation: I found validation isn’t as effective until the underlying agenda tilts more towards acceptance rather than change. This may sound strange, but after we accept that the situation may not change (and behave accordingly), it then grows room to change. No related posts.
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Ask Bon: Why do you emphasize emotional validation so much?
Emotional Validation and why it is vital for an effective relationship with a borderline. Q: Why do you emphasize emotional validation so much? A: Emotional Validation is a very powerful skill, or set of skills, for any relationship with an emotionally sensitive person (ESP), including those with BPD traits. There are a number of reasons that emotional validation is important for a family member of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. Emotional Dysregulation is a core feature of BPD. Another core feature is shame. If you invalidate a BP’s feelings, you are likely to fuel more shame, because they actually feel those emotions, whether or not they seem right or appropriate to…