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Video Explanation of I-AM-MAD Communication Skill
Explaining the I-AM-MAD communication skill by Bon Dobbs. A skill for interacting with emotionally sensitive people, like those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). No related posts.
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Is Your Diagnosed Depression Really Borderline Personality Disorder?
As a rule of thumb, always start by validating the other person’s feelings – you don’t have to agree with the behavior to do that, you can just empathize with the feelings, because there are no right or wrong feelings. Then, when they feel that you’re on their side, you can point out your version of the truth. Is Your Diagnosed Depression Really Borderline Personality Disorder? Borderline Personality Disorder is a psychiatric disorder that didn’t come into clear focus until the last thirty five years or so, and was initially called “borderline” because psychiatrists thought that people who suffered from it were in between neurosis and psychosis. It was considered…
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How to Get Through Crisis
Crisis response coping is crucial for individuals with poor emotion regulation How to Get Through Crisis By SARA STAGGS, LICSW, MPH ~ 2 min read Distress is a fact of life. It’s a wide range of triggers: it’s not always our turn, or we have bad luck, or we make a bad decision and have to suffer the consequences or we experience oppression and injustice and so on. How upsetting these different degrees of distress are depends not only on the magnitude of the event, it depends on us—the same event may be annoying to one person and catastrophic to another. Most of us have different ways of dealing with…
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Living with Borderline Personality Disorder
The mood swings, the periods of depression, the paranoia over personal relationships and the issues with using drink as a crutch rather than an entertainment aid remain. Living with Borderline Personality Disorder By Charlotte Dingle I was first diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder when I was 16. I’d been hacking at my arms with razorblades for two years by then. My only real comforts were writing poetry, drawing and drinking cheap white cider – which I managed to get hold of by hanging outside off-licenses and flirting with the men going in. Eccentric and over-sensitive, I was ostracised by much of my peer group at school. Borderline Personality Disorder mainly…
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Mentalizing is a verb
Mentalization is the true essence of love, compassion and understanding, because it allows you to internalize the authentic “image” of the other person’s mind (and they can yours as well). Mentalization is essentially done through asking questions, but not leading questions. One cannot ASSUME the other person’s thoughts and feelings are what you think they are. You have to start with a blank slate each time. You can “read” momentary feelings (such as recognizing micro-expressions) but the MEANING of those feelings is not always clear. If you don’t know, you have to ask. No related posts.
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20 Rules for Understanding #BPD
The “most vivid autobiographical memories tend to be of emotional events.” Based on experience with people with BPD, I have come to notice that these emotional memories become linked within one’s mind and outside of time. In other words, a distance of many years does not diminish the linkage between an emotional-laden memory and an event currently taking place. A person with BPD will link long ago negative emotional experiences with current events because it “feels the same.” In that way, the person with BPD will sometimes act on these emotional memories in a way that is inappropriate for the current situation. No related posts.