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Help for partners and parents of people with Borderline Personality Disorder – Non-BPDs by Bon Dobbs

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  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Lying,  Manipulation,  Self-Injury,  Shame

    The strange case of Ashley Todd

    November 3, 2008 / 2 Comments

    When I saw the backward-carved “B” in Ashley Todd’s face last week, I couldn’t help but think about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). And one Mental Health professional actually came out and said that Ms. Todd did, in fact, exhibit traits of the disorder. Personally, I have to disagree with the experts that have “diagnosed” her with BPD. While self-injury is a hallmark of BPD, the motivation behind self-injury in BPD is usually NOT to get attention. Clearly, Ms. Todd, who was the “victim” of an attack by a black man in Pennsylvania (which later she admitted was a hoax), carved the “B” in her own cheek and she must have…

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  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Emotions,  Lying,  Pain,  Shame

    BPD and Lying – again…

    May 14, 2008 / 39 Comments

    I believe there are several basic motivations to lie when you have BPD. There are also two types of lies: by admission (by telling) and by omission (by not telling). Both types are a problem with someone with BPD. The motivations for telling a lie (or omitting truth) by someone with BPD are as follows: 1.    When it is more painful to admit or tell the truth. 2.    When she wants the other person to think “better” of her than she thinks of herself. 3.    To avoid the judgment of the other person or judgment of herself. 4.    When she can’t see the “truth” because of emotional reasoning brought on…

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  • Anger,  Emotions,  Lying,  Parenting,  Validation

    Emotional Glasses for Liars and Tantrums

    March 25, 2008 / 2 Comments

    After reviewing Mrs. Treasure’s article on BPD and Demonic Possession, I decided to read at least some of her other posts at AssociatedContent.com. I wanted to find out if she had posted more on Borderline Personality Disorder and why she decided to post on the disorder in the first place. I think she must believe that her new husband’s ex-wife has the disorder, because she wrote another article called “10 Ways to Handle a Difficult Ex? Focus on Borderline Personality Disorder” which refers to the person with BPD as “she” throughout. I’m not going to agree or disagree with the content of that article. I also found an article called…

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  • Blame,  Celebrities,  Lying,  Odds and Ends

    Heather Mills and Paul McCartney’s Judgement Released

    March 18, 2008 / 2 Comments

    The judge in the Paul McCartney/Heather Mills divorce case has released the judgment to the public. It can be found here: Judge’s Decision. I have included this post here, because Heather Mills almost made my top five potential celebrity BPs. Here are some juicy details from the judgement. The judge was not too kind to Ms. Mills: But I regret to have to say I cannot say the same about the wife’s evidence. Having watched and listened to her give evidence, having studied the documents, and having given in her favour every allowance for the enormous strain she must have been under (and in conducting her own case) I am…

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  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Lying,  Validation

    BPD, lying and the nature of truth

    September 25, 2007 / 25 Comments

    One of the most searched-upon subjects in this blog (and talked about in our ATSTP Google Group) is the subject of lying by someone with BPD. The nons are confused by untruthfulness on the part of someone with BPD and wonder how the person with BPD can have any credibility or trustworthiness when, clearly, they continue to tell bold-faced lies. In my response to a recent poster within the ATSTP group, I recently made a new revelation about truthfulness and lying by someone with BPD. I have long said that someone will lie when telling to truth would cause more emotional suffering than lying would. However, that statement seems to…

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  • Lying

    BPD and Lying

    June 4, 2007 /

    Recently, I have had about 20% of the searches on this site involve someone trying to find out about lying. These searches included: “pathological liar”, “BPD and Lying”, “why does bpd lie?”, etc. It seems one on the most difficult things for the non to accept is BPs lying. Here is a note I posted on WTO some time ago about lying – I think it still applies. As for lying, I believe that all people lie (or are willing to lie) when the truth is too painful to be told – even if that feeling of pain is not based in reality. Do BPs lie more than other people?…

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