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Nasty Divorce: A Kids Eye View (An Excerpt)
Her mother was finally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Meredith still deals with the aftermath of abuse and parental alienation. Nasty Divorce: A Kids Eye View (An Excerpt) SEPTEMBER 25, 2015 BY MARINA SBROCHI Marina Sbrochi hopes to incite behavior change by sharing the experiences of children and damaging effects of high conflict divorce. MEREDITH’S STORY Meredith’s parents divorced when her older sister was three and her mother was pregnant with her. She had been told varying stories of why her father hadn’t been in their lives. It began with her mother telling her from as early as she can remember that her father denied fathering her and wanted nothing…
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I have borderline personality disorder. Here are 6 things I wish people understood.
They think people with BPD will kill you, or burn down your house, or stalk you until you need to file a restraining order. We lie, we manipulate; we’re “difficult” and “treatment-resistant.” People think we’re crazy, in the classical sense of the term. I have borderline personality disorder. Here are 6 things I wish people understood. by Eliza Hecht on September 25, 2015 “You don’t seem like you have borderline personality disorder,” people often say to me. They mean it as a compliment. I don’t fit into their idea of what borderline personality disorder looks like. They think people with BPD will kill you, or burn down your house, or…
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‘I am broken inside’: Revisiting lessons from Jiah Khan’s death and suicide note
“All I want now is to go to sleep and never wake up again. I am nothing.” ‘I am broken inside’: Revisiting lessons from Jiah Khan’s death and suicide note Rachel Hercman Aug 25, 2015 at 12:09 pm Jiah Khan’s suicide is now in news again because of Sooraj’s impending movie release. Whether it is a genuine attempt to clear the air or just a PR act, we do not know. However, when we remember the young, beautiful, famous actress deciding she had no other solution than to take her own life, it is a testament to the amount of emotional pain she must have been experiencing. Her suicide note…
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What many people get wrong about suicide
Most suicides are impulsive, but a lot of long-term factors can contribute to the trigger event. What many people get wrong about suicide Updated by German Lopez on September 17, 2015, 1:23 p.m. ET Why do people kill themselves? It’s a question at the heart of suicide prevention: If we know the circumstances surrounding the act, we can better know how to stop it. One myth, for example, is that suicide isn’t impulsive, and people will simply resort to other methods if some lethal means — like guns — aren’t available to them. But Jill Harkavy-Friedman, vice president of research for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, told me years…
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Her brain tormented her, and doctors could not understand why
The young woman — and her family — were exhausted and confused by the barrage of treatments and medications. How were they supposed to cope with her nightmarish outbursts, her self-mutilation and suicide attempts, her destructive behavior? Her brain tormented her, and doctors could not understand why By Aleszu Bajak September 14 at 2:38 PM “I hate myself, and my brain,” Pam Tusiani wrote in her journal while under 24-hour watch on the fourth-floor psychiatric ward of Baltimore’s Johns Hopkins Hospital. “Nothing is worse than this disease.” When Tusiani wrote those words in 1998, doctors had little understanding of the disorder that was troubling her, and all these years later…
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Attitudes toward effectiveness: Throw away the Scoreboard
In order to live a life and have a relationship without creating resentments and tallying up fears, you must throw away the scoreboard. What’s this about a scoreboard? The scoreboard is the “what she does for me” vs “what I have done for her” measure. It’s an accounting of transactions in the relationship. It’s not just about marriage (and sex); parents have a scoreboard for their kids as well. How their kids with BPD don’t appreciate the sacrifice they have made for them and blah, blah, blah. This scoreboard results in more resentment (she’s not meeting my needs) and more fear (I’m going to be the only one giving for…