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Ask Bon: Why does my borderline rage at me?
In the support groups, rage is one of the most talked about aspects of BPD. Why? Because it is one of the most difficult for the Non-BPD to endure. Many people ask themselves, why is this person so angry (with me)? It seems to make no sense. A person with BPD will fly into a rage about seemingly nothing. The smallest thing that is out of place or not done the way that this person expects causes sometimes hours of anger and raging, yelling and screaming and sometimes physical violence. Again, many Nons ask: “what’s up with that?” Anger and rage are usually secondary emotions to other primary ones. Sensitivity…
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The Dark Side of the Trust Hormone
The dark side of the love drug – oxytocin linked to gloating, envy and aggression Oxytocin can actually decrease trust and enhance negative emotions. MichaelKuhn Imagine for a moment that you could gain everyone’s trust in an instant – you could sell more, love more and accomplish more than you ever imagined. Or so says the online marketing spiel for the drug oxytocin. According to verolabs.com, you can buy a bottle of oxytocin – a two-week supply – for only $29.95. Or if you really have trust issues, you can buy a year’s supply for just $179.95. The idea is to spray this “love drug” on yourself in the morning…
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Bobby Baker diary wins Mind Book of the Year
Diary Drawings: Mental Illness and Me praised by judges as an ‘astonishing insight’ into the author’s experiences Performance artist Bobby Baker’s diary of the drawings she created during the 11 years she struggled with mental illness has been chosen as the Mind Book of the Year. Authors and judges of the prize Fay Weldon, Blake Morrison and Michele Roberts found Baker’s Diary Drawings: Mental Illness and Me to be the book which had provided the greatest literary contribution to increasing understanding of mental health issues over the last year. A collection of 158 drawings and watercolours from the hundreds Baker drew daily between 1997 and 2008, it is an “astonishing…
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Emotions and Borderline Personality Disorder
Emotions, understanding the enimga of BPD Why discuss emotions when we are talking about a personality disorder? Well, most researchers agree that the main component of BPD is emotional dysregulation. If you understand the function of emotions and how they play a part in BPD, you can understand the relationship better and interact more effectively with someone with BPD. Emotions involve both the body and the mind. Each emotion has a physical and mental configuration. [Dr. Paul Ekman has shown that for “universal emotions” (he cites seven of them: anger, sadness, joy, disgust, contempt, surprise and fear) the person feeling the emotion also will display the emotion on their face.…
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It’s time to reject the notion that people with personality disorders are beyond help
It’s time to reject the notion that people with personality disorders are beyond help, writes Peter Aldhous FENELLA Lemonsky was 15 when her life disintegrated. She had never been a happy child, but things went from bad to worse in adolescence. Her family had relocated from South Africa to London a few years earlier and she found it impossible to make friends. “I was having mood problems, I was binge-eating and I didn’t know what was happening to me,” Lemonsky recalls. “I would overdose and go to Accident and Emergency. Eventually, I spent time in various psychiatric hospitals, but they didn’t know how to treat me.” Lemonsky had to wait…