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Invalidating Phrases
I found this list of invalidating phrases on another site. I think we nons can learn a lot from this list. Invalidation is weird – and it is a natural reaction to what we think is “crazy” behavior and feelings: “Ordering” the BP to Feel Differently Smile. Be happy. Cheer up Lighten up. Get over it. Grow up Get a life Don’t cry. Don’t worry. Don’t be sad. Stop whining Stop laughing.. Don’t get angry Deal with it. Give it a rest. Forget about it. Stop complaining. Don’t be so dramatic. Don’t be so sensitive. Stop being so emotional. Stop feeling sorry for yourself Stop taking everything so personally Ordering…
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Genetics and BPD
In this study, researchers posit that traits associated with BPD are inherited (impulsivity and emotional regulation). Here is a quote from the abstract: The effect of genes on the development of BPD is likely substantial. The effect of common family environment may be close to zero. While the study doesn’t conclude that BPD is 100% inherited, it does point to certain genetic factors in the BPD adaptive behaviors (or maladaptive). The main point of posting this is to chip away at the myth that BPD and other personality disorders are all the “fault” of parenting or abusive environments. One of the big problems that I have seen in the social,…
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A Daughter with BPD who Lies
A Daughter with BPD who Lies This was my response on WTO to a woman who was very angry with her daughter for lying to her and for having friends over to her (the mother’s) house all night when the mother specifically prohibited it. The mother felt very manipulated and angry – she felt the daughter was disobeying her to hurt her. FYI, the daughter is 23 and was diagnosed with BPD when she was about 16. Hi. Yes, I thought that your daughter was in a situation like that – around 21-25, diagnosed with BPD and once in a residential facility. The reason I asked those specific questions is…
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A Note about BPD and Boundaries And SWOE
In my Google Group, I recently responded to a member about boundaries and the term “non”. In this message the word SWOE refers to the book “Stop Walking on Eggshells” and WTO refers to the “Welcome to Oz” Yahoo mailing group (which is the largest Non group on the Internet). As you can see by my message I am not over enthusiastic about either: — snip The WTO site is all about the “non” and setting “boundaries” does this come from SWOE??? The non label does come from SWOE as far as I’ve been able to tell. It is in common usage now throuhgout the Internet and the BPD community…
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Runaway Shame?
I made another realization recently. When I am depressed, I don’t know what makes me sad, but I feel sad (it’s worse than “sad” but that’s the general family). I imagine that when people get panic disorder they fear fear for “no reason”. So, I was thinking – perhaps depression is when sadness goes haywire, panic when fear goes haywire and BPD (or ERD, or whatever the disorder is called) is when shame goes haywire. It’s not like there is a “valid external reason” to feel shame. They just DO. But often they look for external reasons. It’s a theory anyway… No related posts.
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Dutch Study Shows Promise
Here’s an article published in JAMA journal the Archives of General Psychiatry (http://archpsyc.ama-assn.org/) on June 5th, 2006: Recovery possible for Borderline Patients Dutch investigators prove effectiveness of new treatment. For the first time in history it has been proven that Borderline Personality Disorder can be effectively treated in its full range. Investigators of Maastricht University, Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam, and Leiden University published in the June 2006 issue of the JAMA journal the Archives of General Psychiatry a study into the effectiveness of two psychotherapies for borderline patients. The study demonstrates that Schema focused therapy leads to complete recovery in about 50% of the patients, and in two-thirds to a significant…
