In the post “When Your Partner Says They Are In Pain, Validate” Kate Theda of the “Partners in Wellness” blog specifically used my I-AM-MAD communication skill to teach her readers about validation. Here is the intro for the log post:
After a period of dealing with a partner’s mental illness, compassion fatigue can set in. Yes, you still love your partner. Yes, you still care that they are not feeling well. But it can become difficult to empathize after a while, and you begin to wonder, “When is this going to end?”
While I can’t give you an answer on when–or if–the illness will abate, what I can tell you is that it is essential that if your partner says they are in pain, believe them. The pain could be emotional or physical, and either way, it is valid.
I could not agree more with that statement. Pain hurts even if he seems to you (the partner) as if it shouldn’t.
I wanted to thank Ms. Theda for sharing my tool with her readers. I’d encourage my readers to read her post. I’d also encourage you to check out the Emotional Validation Spotlight.