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Cleaned up links on ATSTP
Hello all, Today I cleaned up the links on ATSTP. I found that several of the links were dead and the directory links were linking out to spammy sites. I will have to check those more frequently. It’s been a while since I did a manual check of them. I think they are cleaner now. Enjoy! No related posts.
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Shared my First Presentation on Slide Share
I decided to share my video in slide form on slide share. Here is the 4 X 4 presentation that I used for the video on slide share. http://www.slideshare.net/bondobbs/the-4-x-4-of-bpd I am also sharing another presentation that talks about the I-AM-MAD emotional validation skill. Here is the I-AM-MAD presentation: I am-mad emotional validation skill View more presentations from bondobbs. No related posts.
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An exercise in validation
Validation (or emotional validation) is an extremely powerful tool when it comes to emotional situations. It is complex and multi-stepped and it takes a lot of practice to master. On my Internet list, I talk a great deal about validation because it is essential to managing a relationship with someone with BPD. If you learn to master validation, you can see a marked change in the way your loved one with BPD interacts with you. Validation is a tool that verifies that the other person’s feelings are valid, but doesn’t necessarily condone or agree with their behavior. Remember, the behaviors come from feelings, beliefs and “action impulses” so they can…
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New Free Tool from ATSTP
Today, I have uploaded a new free tool for you to use when making decisions. The purpose of the tool is to help you make more informed decisions and help to combat impulsiveness. The tool is a “decision matrix” where you can map out the advantages and disadvantages of doing something (or not doing it). Here is a link to the tool (instructions are on the second page of the tool): ATSTP Decision Matrix Tool PR: wait… I: wait… L: wait… LD: wait… I: wait… wait… Rank: wait… Traffic: wait… Price: wait… C: wait… No related posts.
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An exercise in being Non-judgmental
I have been working on a second edition of When Hope is Not Enough, in which I am adding some exercises as well as some new tools and perspectives to make the book even more effective. One of the exercises is in learning how to be mindful of one’s judgmental attitudes. I often say that people with BPD are almost allergic to judgment. I find that this can be tracked back to shame which in turn can be tracked back to an unstable sense of self. Here is the first draft of the exercise: One way to become non-judgmental is to become aware of your (often) unconscious and conditioned judgments.…
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Read my free eBook
Here is one of my free eBooks (actually more of a free “white paper”). You can read it here from Scribd. Read online by clicking on more… No related posts.