Just a note or two on BPD vs psychopathy…
Firstly, when shown the Ekman faces (just google it if you don’t know what those are), borderlines are likely to view neutral faces as angry and angry faces as extremely threatening. Borderlines think “that person is angry *at me*”. With fear faces, borderlines actually express empathy, even if Baron-Cohen says they don’t. I disagree with him in this regard. I believe the lack of empathy in borderlines occurs during a “failure to mentalize” and is not a general BPD trait.
Psychopath’s brains only activate on fear faces. Disturbingly, they get “excited” about fear in others (i.e. the pleasure centers of the brain light up).
Secondly, psychopaths are the only class of disordered individuals that use goal-directed aggression. Borderlines do not. Their aggression is reactive. Now, you may read that and think “oh my god! My ‘BP’ is a psychopath!” yet what is really happening is that you probably don’t see the trigger of reactive aggression. The trigger for a borderline (or another emotionally sensitive person) can very well be internally-generated – by ruminating or misreading the intentions of others. Psychopaths, however, LIKE to see fear in you. Borderlines just don’t like to feel fear in themselves.
The thing is… I am differentiating the groups because the skills taught in WHINE will not work with psychopaths. In fact, it will probably make them more manipulative because they can gain an understanding of your emotions (whereas they have very little ability to mentalize about others’ feelings, intentions, etc. – they just don’t care) and use that knowledge to get what they want.
For more on psychopathy, listen to Dr. James Blair’s presentation to the 2009 ISSPD.
And some books – Dr. Blair’s book included: