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BPD, lying and the nature of truth

BPD, lying and the nature of truth

One of the most searched-upon subjects in this blog (and talked about in our ATSTP Google Group) is the subject of lying by someone with BPD. The nons are confused…

BPD, lying and the nature of truth
Tough Love Reconsidered with BPD

Tough Love Reconsidered with BPD

Does one use tough love with BPD? You can’t START with tough love, because first emotional trust has to be established.

Tough Love Reconsidered with BPD
Are you pissed off at someone with BPD?

Are you pissed off at someone with BPD?

UPDATE 10/2008:  This post is quite old... but it still applies. However, if you want to know HOW to do some of the things I mention here, I have recently…

Are you pissed off at someone with BPD?
I-AM-MAD communication skill

I-AM-MAD communication skill

Last week I wrote an email to someone explaining the value of validation and the stance one "should" adopt when using validation. Emotional validation is valuable when someone is experiencing…

I-AM-MAD communication skill
The validating statement revealed

The validating statement revealed

This is an excerpt from pages 103-104 from my book When Hope is Not Enough: a how-to guide for living with and loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. This excerpt…

The validating statement revealed
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