One of the most searched-upon subjects in this blog (and talked about in our ATSTP Google Group) is the subject of lying by someone with BPD. The nons are confused…
Tough Love Reconsidered with BPD
Tough Love Reconsidered with BPD
Does one use tough love with BPD? You can’t START with tough love, because first emotional trust has to be established.
Are you pissed off at someone with BPD?
Are you pissed off at someone with BPD?
UPDATE 10/2008: This post is quite old... but it still applies. However, if you want to know HOW to do some of the things I mention here, I have recently…
I-AM-MAD communication skill
I-AM-MAD communication skill
Last week I wrote an email to someone explaining the value of validation and the stance one "should" adopt when using validation. Emotional validation is valuable when someone is experiencing…
The validating statement revealed
The validating statement revealed
This is an excerpt from pages 103-104 from my book When Hope is Not Enough: a how-to guide for living with and loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. This excerpt…