I think that we need to examine our language to understand how judgment can creep into our attitudes. I believe that our language reveals the underlying beliefs about other people and this specifically applies to people with BPD. If we describe the person’s behavior as “nonsense” (with it most certainly can be because it is driven from emotional mind) or as “crazy” behavior, I believe this reveals judgment in our minds. Blaming never helps and labeling the other person as crazy or whatever, merely makes the problem much worse. If you examine your own thinking about the behaviors of others, you can discover and elimate judgment of the other person. This is a step in the right direction.