Since BPD is chiefly an emotional disorder and since shame is involved I have found the following about consequences for someone with BPD (from most important to least):
- Future Painful Emotions
- Judgment of Others
- Suffering of Others (especially children)
What this means is that the “normal” (or natural) consequences might not actually “take” in someone with BPD. A threat of punishment is less likely to cause behavior change than the possibility of future negative emotions – the “I’m going to feel really bad when…” consequence.
Adapted from Beyond Boundaries