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Walking on Eggshells Quiz
A quiz to find out if you’re “walking on eggshells” around your partner: The Walking on Eggshells Quiz If you find that you are, and think that your partner has Borderline Personality Disorder traits. I suggest you check out the resources that I provide on this site – that is, if you want to stay with your partner and want to learn how to make things easier and better. “Stop Walking on Eggshells” is a great title for a book; however, the book itself will not teach you the skills necessary to stay in the relationship effectively. I have found that the skills in that book (commonly known as SWOE)…
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Success and the Path to Effectiveness
Over the past two days on the ATSTP Google Group, I have been happy to see some success exhibited. Many people on the Internet and on Internet email supports lists for Non-BPs will tell you that there is no hope of having a relationship with someone with BPD. Often I have seen that the only “advice” given to Nons is: RUN AWAY! Even on the “staying” sites and sub-sites, many people think that it will never get better EVER – which to me is a form of black-and-white thinking that Nons engage in. While hope may not be enough, the BP/Non-BP partner relationship is not without hope at all. This…
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A new book from Bon
Today, I published a new book called “But I Love You: A Primer for Understanding a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder.” This book is a even quicker quick-start guide to BPD and being a Non-BP than my other book “When Hope is Not Enough.” “When Hope is Not Enough” is 185 pages and packed with examples, conversations and frequently asked questions about BPD. “But I Love You” is only 50 pages and represents a distilling and reorganization of the material presented in “When Hope is Not Enough”. Basically, what happened was that one of my list members (of the ATSTP Google list) found that my first book was frustrating…
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Article in Time about the DSM
Here’s an article about the DSM… Wednesday, Mar. 11, 2009 Redefining Crazy: Researchers Revise the DSM By John Cloud If you wanted to make a list of important books you should read, what would you choose? Anna Karenina, maybe? The Bible? How about the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders? It may not be at the top of your list, but the DSM, as it’s usually called, is one of the most important books in the world. It attempts to categorize, describe and give a code number to literally every problem that can occur in your mind, from schizophrenia to borderline personality disorder to something called mathematics disorder, which…
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Ekman and Emotional Profiles
I was reading the book “Emotional Awareness” which is a transcript of a conversation between the Dalai Lama and Dr. Paul Ekman (two of my favorites!). On pages 45-47, Ekman talks about the idea of “emotional profiles.” He says he has spent many decades of his career identifying the similarities between people in their emotional lives and now, through emotional profiles, is identifying differences in people’s emotional lives. I noticed when reading the book is that there are a number of factors that seem to affect a person’s emotional profile. Ekman says a bit about it, yet when I researched and thought about writing “When Hope is Not Enough” I…
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Mentalization and BPD
I am learning mentalization and it shows great promise! Here is a link to Anthony Bateman’s website with info on this technique…. http://www.ucl.ac.uk/psychoanalysis/unit-staff/anthony.htm No related posts.