• Home
  • Book
  • Privacy
Anything to Stop the Pain

Help for partners and parents of people with Borderline Personality Disorder – Non-BPDs by Bon Dobbs

  • Home
  • WHINE Book
  • Contact
  • About
  • Home
  • WHINE Book
  • Contact
  • About
  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Manipulation,  Treatment

    Borderline Personality Disorder: Open Letter to Emergency Department and Hospital Based Staff

    January 28, 2015 / 1 Comment

     Invalidating our feelings is like throwing petrol onto an already fierce raging fire. Bon: I think the same could be said of emotionally dysregulated moments with loved ones… Borderline Personality Disorder: Open Letter to Emergency Department and Hospital Based Staff By SONIA NEALE ~ 4 min read People with a diagnosis of BPD are often accused of manipulation and splitting in psychiatric settings. A quick Google search reveals that manipulation is the action of manipulating someone in a clever or unscrupulous way, the skilful handling, controlling or using of something or someone, to manage or influence skilfully, especially in an unfair manner, to manipulate people’s feelings. I have never felt…

    Read More
    Bon Dobbs

    You May Also Like

    Mental Health Bill: Rick Warren and Wife Kay ‘Grateful’ to Congress for Passing 21st Century Cures Act

    December 13, 2016

    Rejection Sensitivity and BPD

    November 29, 2007

    Cats Again Get a Bad Rap in Toxoplasmosis Coverage

    April 22, 2016
  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Emotions,  Impulsiveness,  Manipulation,  Other Disorders

    Happy Victimization: Emotion Dysregulation in The Context of Instrumental, Proactive Aggression

    October 22, 2013 / 2 Comments

    How the role of attachment, amygdala response and the mirror neuron system play out in aggression types in BPD and Psychopathy Here is a snip from a very interesting blog post by William Lu, who was a graduate student in psychology when he wrote it in 2010: I recently read a fascinating book chapter written by William Arsenio titled Happy Victimization: Emotion Dysregulation in The Context of Instrumental, Proactive Aggression. Early in the chapter, the author discussed how according to a study, 4-year-old children tended to predict that a bully would feel happy after pushing around some poor chump on the playground, aka happy victimization (Arsenio & Kramer, 1992). However, at age…

    Read More
    Bon Dobbs

    You May Also Like

    Problem gambling, personality disorders often go hand in hand

    December 2, 2014

    Selena Gomez on Instagram Fatigue, Good Mental Health, and Stepping Back From the Limelight

    March 20, 2017

    Therapy Isn’t Easy, And Sometimes You Have To Get Worse Before You Get Better

    February 7, 2019
  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Emotions,  Lying,  Manipulation

    Ask Bon: Why can’t this person listen to reason (or see the truth)?

    September 14, 2012 / 6 Comments

    It has been said in popular culture “if it feels good, do it.” In the case of BPD, the saying should be more like “if I feel it, it must be true.” Emotional reasoning is the inclination to believe that feelings actually equal (or cause) facts and events to happen. The feelings of someone with BPD are so immediate and overpowering; it is difficult for someone experiencing these feelings and emotions to believe that these feelings are self-generated. It is important to remember the function of emotions to understand why emotional reasoning takes place. As stated, the basic emotions function to detect threats to one’s survival (or either body or…

    Read More
    Bon Dobbs

    You May Also Like

    Living with mental illness: Learning to accept your positive traits with the rest

    December 23, 2016

    Health Insurers Are Still Skimping On Mental Health Coverage

    December 4, 2017

    Rejection Sensitivity and BPD

    November 29, 2007
  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Manipulation

    Hoovering or Relationship Recycling?

    March 9, 2012 / No Comments

    “Hoovering” is a misleading slang term that some use to suggest that a relationship partner can “suck us back into a relationship” after we break it off Bon: Skip, over at BPDFamily.com, wrote this article about Hoovering. I find it interesting and I go a bit of a chuckle out of the sentence: “Hope is not enough (on both sides).” BPD News: Is it a “Hoover” or is it “Relationship Recycling” 9/01/2010 BPDFAMILY.COM 2 COMMENTS The BPDFamily.com support group reports that “hoovering” is a misleading slang term that some use to suggest that a relationship partner can “suck us back into a relationship” after we break it off. “Hoovering” in…

    Read More
    Bon Dobbs

    You May Also Like

    SNL’s Pete Davidson says he’s been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder

    September 29, 2017

    DBT Skill of the Day: Teflon Mind from Mindfulness Module

    November 30, 2012

    What BPD Feels Like

    October 31, 2010
  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Lying,  Manipulation,  Other Disorders

    ABC News Experts talk about Casey Anthony’s potential disorder

    July 19, 2011 / No Comments

    An article from ABC News about Casey Anthony’s pathological lying and the disorder from which it may arise. Before I supply the text here, I want to discuss this quote: Two of the potential issues Anthony could suffer from are border personality disorder and psychopathology, the experts said. The main thing these issues have in common is a total lack of empathy, according to LeslieBeth Wish, a psychologist and licensed social worker in Sarasota, Fla. “They can turn a person into a non-person,” Wish said. “Borderline personalities have more emotional regulation problem and often use lying to get away from something and not ever feeling like they’re responsible.” Those two potential issues…

    Read More
    Bon Dobbs

    You May Also Like

    Borderline Personality Disorder: Not Just an Adult Condition

    November 20, 2017

    SNL’s Pete Davidson says he’s been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder

    September 29, 2017

    Personality disorder: Woman’s ‘suffocating’ illness

    November 17, 2016
  • Borderline Personality Disorder,  Lying,  Manipulation,  Other Disorders

    Casey Anthony: Borderline Personality Disorder, a Psychopath or What?

    June 3, 2011 / 19 Comments

    A few days ago I got an email from a member of the ATSTP list asking me what I thought about the possibility of Casey Anthony, who is currently on trial for the murder of her 2 year old daughter (Caylee Anthony), having Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). In 2008, I was following the case with interest. I have followed it a bit during the trial. I am not a doctor or a mental health professional, yet I have met a LOT of people with BPD (both men and women) and members of their families. I’ve looked at Casey Anthony’s behavior and compared it with the behavior of people that I…

    Read More
    Bon Dobbs

    You May Also Like

    Mental Health Bill: Rick Warren and Wife Kay ‘Grateful’ to Congress for Passing 21st Century Cures Act

    December 13, 2016

    DBT Mindfulness – The how and the what

    March 1, 2011

    DBT Skill of the Day: Distress Tolerance for Now

    March 24, 2013
12
Ashe Theme by Royal-Flush - 2023 ©