Borderline Personality Disorder,  Parenting

Adopted Children and BPD

This is a link to site positing that adopted children are often mis-diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Sometimes, BPD is characterized by an “”inability to connect”” with parents. In the case of adopted persons, the initial invalidation of being “”rejected”” by one’s birth parents can be a life-long struggle. I have found that in Family Support groups close to 40% of the children diagnosed with BPD were adopted. However, there is another theory that has been overlooked by this author. That is that the birth parents of these children may have exposed them to biological impulsivity. If the mothers of the adopted children are impulsive – having sex and getting pregnant when it is not possible to keep a child – is it likely that the impulsivity has been passed down to the child? Meaning, the parents (who may have BPD tendencies, since they are often young and impulsive and engaging in unsafe behaviors themselves) may biologically pre-dispose those children to emotional dysregulation and BPD. It is impossible to know whether these children would develop BPD if they had stayed with their birth parents, but, going back to the biosocial model, they may have biological factors from their parents that are furthered by the initial rejection. This is just a theory and not based on scientific evidence at all. I would agree that, given my experience with families of diagnosed borderlines, a large portion of the children are adopted. Certainly, more study is needed. I would just suggest that perhaps the unsafe and impulsive behaviors of their birth parents might also play a role in their development of emotional dysregulation. It is not necessarily all the “”inability to connect”” with the adopted parents.