Comments on: Walking on Eggshells Quiz http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/walking-on-eggshells-quiz/ Help for partners and parents of people with Borderline Personality Disorder - Non-BPDs by Bon Dobbs Fri, 10 Feb 2012 12:02:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: dc http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/walking-on-eggshells-quiz/comment-page-1/#comment-12304 dc Tue, 10 Jan 2012 04:58:23 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/?p=1122#comment-12304 I think you may be fooling yourself, the crazy house as you put it is only bareable because your not living in it. As soon as you return the pain anguish and suffering WILL return. I think your reaching for the ever tempting urge to forgive and forget. What your really "forgetting" is this is a personality disorder and the only way for it to be resolved in the context of YOUR reality is to eliminate it and consequently the source of "it" from your life. Then again, its your life, do what you want to... just saying... Black and white thinking? Absolutley. I think you may be fooling yourself, the crazy house as you put it is only bareable because your not living in it. As soon as you return the pain anguish and suffering WILL return. I think your reaching for the ever tempting urge to forgive and forget. What your really “forgetting” is this is a personality disorder and the only way for it to be resolved in the context of YOUR reality is to eliminate it and consequently the source of “it” from your life. Then again, its your life, do what you want to… just saying… Black and white thinking? Absolutley.

]]> By: non-BP http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/walking-on-eggshells-quiz/comment-page-1/#comment-11132 non-BP Sun, 05 Jun 2011 14:34:55 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/?p=1122#comment-11132 I think 'stay & help' or 'divorce' is an example of black & white thinking. I separated from my wife, and I want to help her. I'm working on validation & compassion. I'm still sensitive to her pressing my buttons, and find having my own place allows me to limit my interactions with her until I'm ready to deal with her behavior. It's been great for me not living in the crazy house all the time! Despite her initial threats of 'separation means divorce', we remain married. With improvement in the relationship on both sides I can see us reconciling in the future. I think ‘stay & help’ or ‘divorce’ is an example of black & white thinking. I separated from my wife, and I want to help her. I’m working on validation & compassion. I’m still sensitive to her pressing my buttons, and find having my own place allows me to limit my interactions with her until I’m ready to deal with her behavior. It’s been great for me not living in the crazy house all the time!
Despite her initial threats of ‘separation means divorce’, we remain married. With improvement in the relationship on both sides I can see us reconciling in the future.

]]> By: Randi Kreger http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/walking-on-eggshells-quiz/comment-page-1/#comment-3755 Randi Kreger Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:20:54 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/?p=1122#comment-3755 Which skills on which pages, Bon, did you try? I will make sure I revise those to make them clearer. Randi Kreger Randi @BPDCentral.com Author, "The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells" (Available at www.BPDCentral.com) Which skills on which pages, Bon, did you try? I will make sure I revise those to make them clearer.

Randi Kreger
Randi @BPDCentral.com
Author, “The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells”
(Available at http://www.BPDCentral.com)

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