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Learned Helplessness versus Stockholm Syndrome
Today, a member of my list posted an excerpt from Randi Kreger’s new book about why people stay in abusive relationships. Randi mentioned Stockholm Syndrome as a possible reason. I am currently writing a new edition of my book When Hope is No Enough. I cover the concept of Stockholm Syndrome and why I think it doesn’t apply BPD/Non-BP relationships. Here is an unedited excerpt from my second edition about this subject: Learned Helplessness and PTSD Another concept that is new to this edition is the idea of learned helplessness and PTSD as Non-BP’s. Personally, I think this concept applies to both people with BPD and those who loved them.…
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Possible Genetic link in BPD?
From Science Daily: Possible Genetic Causes Of Borderline Personality Disorder Identified ScienceDaily (Dec. 20, 2008) — According to the National Institute of Mental Health, borderline personality disorder (BPD) is more common than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder and is estimated to affect 2 percent of the population. In a new study, a University of Missouri researcher and Dutch team of research collaborators found that genetic material on chromosome nine was linked to BPD features, a disorder characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image and behavior, and can lead to suicidal behavior, substance abuse and failed relationships. “The results of this study hopefully will bring researchers closer to determining the…
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Boundaries and their effective use
Well, well, well… I don’t know why but apparently I continue to be a subject at WTO. Weird. I posted about this a few days ago. I’ve been out of touch with the blog for a few days, while I do family stuff and take care of my email list. I really admire the people on my list; they do a great job of being both honest and validating with one another – while at the same time providing constructive advice to one another. Boundaries… I’ve posted about boundaries many times before. I think boundaries are one of the most misunderstood concepts in the non-BP/BP relationship. While it is difficult…
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I haven’t bought/read it yet, but here’s a children’s book for kids with a BP mom
I stumbled across this children’s book, An Umbrella for Alex, which is a book for kids trying to understand mom’s BPD behavior. Like I said, I haven’t bought it or read it. Maybe one of you would like to and drop me a message as to how effective it is (or is not). I know my kids know when (as my daughter puts it) “mommy’s doing it” – which I know she means that mom is acting an an impulsive BPD-like fashion. I’m a little wary of the book though. It comes from the Personality Disorder Awareness Network (PDAN) of which I have never heard. It would seem that in…
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Emotional Glasses for Liars and Tantrums
After reviewing Mrs. Treasure’s article on BPD and Demonic Possession, I decided to read at least some of her other posts at AssociatedContent.com. I wanted to find out if she had posted more on Borderline Personality Disorder and why she decided to post on the disorder in the first place. I think she must believe that her new husband’s ex-wife has the disorder, because she wrote another article called “10 Ways to Handle a Difficult Ex? Focus on Borderline Personality Disorder” which refers to the person with BPD as “she” throughout. I’m not going to agree or disagree with the content of that article. I also found an article called…
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Tough Love is NOT the Answer with BPD
I often peruse the web for articles and posts about dealing with people with Borderline Personality Disorder and what I usually find is incorrect and misguided. I recently stumbled upon a post that can be found here: http://www.helium.com/tm/339437/individuals-suffering-borderline-personality In which the author gives some insight and advice about “dealing with” someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. I’d like to look at her advice by excerpting some of her text and then offer a little commentary. First of all, she says this: Individuals suffering from borderline personality disorder are very self-destructive and they have great difficulty forming any good relationships. A deep-seeded fear of abandonment is behind every wayward action and prolonged…