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The other day I received a nice comment from a woman with BPD. She told me that she was planning on revealing to her long time significant other that she has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She said that she was planning on giving him 2 books – “When Hope is Not Enough” (my book) and “I Hate You Don’t Leave Me”. She was hoping that her SO will better understand her by reading these. Personally, I was flattered. To have my book used in that way makes me quite gratified.
Here is a quote from the end of her message to me:
Another thing that I really appreciated about your book is that it’s both empathetic for the person with BPD and for those around him (sorry, not buying your “her” pronoun
). I found it incredibly non-judgemental for a book about BPD. Generally, books on the subject either gloss over the distress that relatives of BPs may feel (because it’s not the subject) or are incredibly insensitive in their descriptions of BPs. I can’t begin to tell you how much I appreciated that your book was not describing me as some cold-blooded monster revealing in torturing others. I was, however, intrigued by the part in which you talk about poor self-esteem in BPs as a pathological trait (I don’t have your book with me right now, so I can’t quote you precisely on this one). There’s one thing about BPs that can’t be denied, they’re poor partner choices. So when I tell my bf something along the lines that he could have done better than me, I think it’s pretty much a realistic perception. I mean – if only a small part of what is written about BPs is true (and in this regard, your book is the cream of the crop of non-judgementalness) it would still be realistic from BPs to think of themselves as poor partners, if not as poor human beings.
So, that was about it. Congratulations for the good job.
As you can see by her kind words, here is someone with BPD feeling that “When Hope is Not Enough” is empathetic and non-judgmental which was exactly my intention when writing the book. If you have BPD and want a book to help explain to your loved ones… “When Hope is Not Enough” is an excellent choice. Although it is short, it is dense and packed with information. I’d have to say “But I Love You” which is my shorter guide for loved ones of people with BPD is probably not quite as empathetic and non-judgmental as “When Hope is Not Enough”.
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