TV does not seem to help things, putting kids into an alpha state while making them susceptible to suggestion and at the same time setting fantasy expectations that never get met, on a generation of children that are attached to fantasy (via tv and video games) and then have to deal with pressures of modern society. They repress, and it use to be that they would hit their 40′s before becoming depressed.. But now, it is occurring in their 20′s.
Look at the statistics for depression since 1950′s (when TV first appeared)until 1990 or current. One way arrow, UP.

Stop raising babies for “Society” start raising independent thinkers. Dump the manipulation and most of all the guilt trips. Let them be who they want to be, not who you want them to be or think they should be. And stop drugging them.
Want to bet the person referenced in the article that did the stabbing was on anti-depressants.

We (The US) are a country for the most part raised by a very popular black book, this book teaches fear, guilt, punishment and reward based manipulation that inevitably creates parents and children that use these tools for control just like the deity of that book. It is a nearly never ending cycle, designed to create self policing policies that are against the instinctual nature of man.

i don’t agree about being able to deep love for others, though. i feel disconnected from people a lot and like i don’t have capacity to love. But when i was ill, i would be very clingy and desperate if anyone tried to leave me. But its not real love. I was extremely self-centered and self-absorbed when i ill, not a loving person at all.

Hi, welcome back. I think Dr. Linehan’s description here is trying to generate sympathy/empathy for the state of an untreated BP, rather than judging the state as defective in some manner. I was amazed the other day about a post by Tides of Crazy Love about her BP’s husband suicide threat. She says to his family that , in some ways, he is BETTER than “normal” (whatever that is) because his sensitivity has a major upside, beyond any downsides that that must generate. We are all different and we all adjust to our emotional life as best we can. I think Dr. Linehan is trying to use a metaphor to help others understand what it feels like to have the disorder. I personally (and in my book I do) like to use the metaphor of the heat sensor. While many people’s heat sensors are set at 80 degrees to panic, a person with BPD might be set at 60 degrees. It’s not that it’s wrong or defective, only that a person might be more sensitive to the temperature. Sometimes that lower setting might generate more “false alarms” (at least in the eyes of those set at 80 degrees), but it also make a person with BPD more aware and sensitive to their environment.

Take care,

Bon

I’m not sure I like being referred to like that. Don’t really know why it bothers me but it does.