Comments on: Hoovering or not? An unexpected gift from someone with BPD http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/hoovering-unexpected-gift-bpd/ Help for partners and parents of people with Borderline Personality Disorder - Non-BPDs by Bon Dobbs Fri, 10 Feb 2012 12:02:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Adelaide Dupont http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/hoovering-unexpected-gift-bpd/comment-page-1/#comment-3350 Adelaide Dupont Thu, 21 Jan 2010 00:08:13 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/?p=1333#comment-3350 Yes, writing letters or e-mails will help keep in contact and it will be recipriocal and help develop thinking on both sides. I would probably say I felt surprised. You'd have to feel pretty comfortable in a relationship to accept "just because"/unexpected gifts. Yes, writing letters or e-mails will help keep in contact and it will be recipriocal and help develop thinking on both sides.

I would probably say I felt surprised.

You’d have to feel pretty comfortable in a relationship to accept “just because”/unexpected gifts.

]]> By: Robin Yockey http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/hoovering-unexpected-gift-bpd/comment-page-1/#comment-3310 Robin Yockey Sun, 17 Jan 2010 23:28:58 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/?p=1333#comment-3310 At age 53 years of age, I have finally found out what is wrong with my mother. I can no longer be or talk with her without going into a depression when she begins to angry ranting one minute, the apology the next, back to how much she loves me, to the suspicious and nasty comments. Every experience such as this, causes me to relive my childhood and life full of wanting a relationship with someone who is incapable. I am still dealing with the guilt, but for my own physical and mental health, I have to walk away. Unfortunately, I am divorced from two men who had mental illnesses, and were abusive. No more, I want my children and grandchildren to have a balanced and loving mother and grandmother. I can't afford to waste anymore time. At age 53 years of age, I have finally found out what is wrong with my mother. I can no longer be or talk with her without going into a depression when she begins to angry ranting one minute, the apology the next, back to how much she loves me, to the suspicious and nasty comments. Every experience such as this, causes me to relive my childhood and life full of wanting a relationship with someone who is incapable. I am still dealing with the guilt, but for my own physical and mental health, I have to walk away. Unfortunately, I am divorced from two men who had mental illnesses, and were abusive. No more, I want my children and grandchildren to have a balanced and loving mother and grandmother. I can’t afford to waste anymore time.

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