Helping someone with BPD

An article on DBT skills and validation:

There are few things people want more in life than to be told that they are right about what they are thinking, feeling and doing. Upon being told this, people usually calm down and feel better, which makes communicating with them much easier. Validation basically involves communicating that we understand, appreciate or approve of something in another person, such as their beliefs, emotions or actions. Though we may be able to validate everything someone feels or does (especially if these are destructive) we can learn to find something in the person’s feelings or behaviors that we can understand and agree with.

http://www.dbtsf.com/helping-someone.htm

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