Consulting/Coaching Sessions with Bon Dobbs
Bon is no longer offering the email support package. It was consuming too much time.
Bon is offering consulting/coaching sessions. These cost $75/hour and are typically done over the phone. Sometimes it’s necessary to have a real live person to talk to about your loved one with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These sessions are a way to help you more completely understand the behavior and feelings of someone with BPD. Bon draws on his experiences with a spouse and child with BPD.
NOTE: the sessions are not an alternative to therapy or a form of therapy of any kind. Bon Dobbs is NOT a therapist or a mental health professional of any kind. He is a Non-BP with many years of experience living with family members with BPD and BPD traits.
Why go to therapy if there’s nothing wrong with you?
Bon has nothing against therapy. Therapy can be very helpful. Yet, many times the therapist is not acquainted with the issues that arise by having a family member (or friend) with BPD. Also, therapy assumes that YOU have some sort of disorder. It’s a mental health model. If you’re not mentally unhealthy then what you need is a consultant or coach.
Bon believes that family members of people with Borderline Personality Disorder need to acquire emotional skills to be effective and successful in these often tumultuous relationships. Like any set of skills, until you gain complete mastery over them, you’re bound to fumble around and make mistakes. The goal is emotionally agility.
What is agility?
Agility is the ability to change the body’s position efficiently, and requires the integration of isolated movement skills using a combination of balance, coordination, speed, reflexes, strength, endurance, and stamina. (From Wikipedia Definition)
OK, what is Emotional Agility (EA)?
Emotional Agility is the ability to adjust a mind’s position efficiently, depending on the conditions of other’s minds around you. It is similar to mentalization, yet the emphasis is on feelings, rather than general cognition. It is the integration of isolated emotional skills including: emotional intelligence, emotional strength, emotional flexibility, emotional balance and emotional stamina.
How do I develop EA?
You develop EA like you would any skill set. Let’s compare it to playing baseball. In order to be good at baseball, you have to have a certain amount of natural ability. Then, you have to learn the fundamentals of hitting, throwing, catching and base-running. Then, you have to learn the rules of the game. Then, you have to practice – over-and-over – until you’ve absorbed the fundamentals and integrated them into agility. Only then can you become a professional (or serious amateur) baseball player.
The thing is though, that many people need a coach to develop this agility. Bon Dobbs is a coach of emotional agility. If you’d like to have Bon coach (and consult with you) you, click on the Buy Button below. You will receive further instructions as to the logistics of the session when you complete the purchase.