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Mentalization and understanding the minds of others

Bon Dobbs — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 17:41:42 +0000

I spoken about mentalization on this site before. Since I’ve lately been on a TED talk kick, mainly watching TED talks about neuroscience, I wanted to post this one from Rebecca Saxe which is called “How we read each other’s minds”. It is basically describing the process of mentalizing and how a certain part of the brain, the Right Temporo-Parietal Junction, is highly specialized for seeking to understand the motivations of others, the essence of mentalization. What is fascinating about this talk is her use of the pirate/cheese sandwich story with children of various ages. She demonstrates how the process of mentalization develops over time. I talked about another mentalization test (which is based on the same principles) in this post. I’d encourage all of my readers to watch this video. Although she doesn’t use the words mentalizing or mentalization, that is what she is describing. Additionally, I suppose that when someone with BPD experiences a “failure to mentalize”, that part of the brain is most likely dimmed.

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The power of patterns. Why your borderline loved one may think you’re trying to hurt them

Bon Dobbs — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 19:44:12 +0000

Here is a Ted Talk by Michael Shermer on the pattern-finding power of the human brain. After I watched this video, I was struck that this is probably why people with Borderline Personality Disorder or just highly sensitive people develop the belief that people are out to hurt them or that they are being judged and degraded by others.

You can purchase a copy of his latest book at Amazon below.

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The Believing Brain: From Ghosts and Gods to Politics and Conspiracies---How We Construct Beliefs and Reinforce Them as Truths (Hardcover)

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“If only we had known” Video Series About BPD

Bon Dobbs — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 20:47:05 +0000

If Only We Had Known, A Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder is a five part video series about borderline personality disorder (BPD) developed under a grant from the National Institute of Mental Health. Through the experiences of four families who have a loved one with borderline personality disorder and explanations from leading BPD experts these videos offer support and help to families who are living with borderline personality disorder.

You can watch a clip of the series at NEA-BPD site.

My first YouTube Video

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The Empathic Civilization?

Bon Dobbs — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 20:21:04 +0000

RSA Animate – The Empathic Civilization

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My first YouTube Video

Bon Dobbs — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 06:44:54 +0000

“If only we had known” Video Series About BPD

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Shooter in PA and painful emotions

Bon Dobbs — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 20:29:46 +0000

Here is a video put out by PA Gym shooter George Sodini about his emotions… I post this not to provide him with sympathy. He made a horrible choice that will ruin the lives of many. I post it because it illustrates the power of negative emotions on a person’s psyche.

Obviously, my heart goes out to his victims more than to him. I just wonder how many other people are suffering out there in isolation and painful emotions. So many people require emotional skills. IMO most violence, included these horrible mass murders, are caused by painful emotions.

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Decision making on Colbert?

Bon Dobbs — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 18:42:03 +0000

The other night I saw an author of “How we decide” on Colbert. It is worth watching. Here:

The Colbert ReportMon – Thurs 11:30pm / 10:30c

Jonah Lehrer

Colbert Report Full Episodes
Funny Political News

Christian Bale Parody
Joke of the Day

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Andy Dick… Wow, what a mess

Bon Dobbs — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 16:49:32 +0000

Well, I haven’t written anything EVER about Andy Dick… but I read an article today that puts him high on the celebrity BPD meter… I also watch the YouTube clip of him being thrown off of Jimmy Kimmel’s show. Here is the article and the clip:

Comedian Andy Dick arrested in drug, sexual battery case in Murrieta
From the Associated Press

Andy Dick, 42, was arrested today on suspicion of drug use and sexual battery in Murrieta.
The former ‘NewsRadio’ star allegedly fondled a teen and pulled down her tank top outside a restaurant. Police say they found marijuana and Xanax in his possession.
By David Kelly, Los Angeles Times Staff Writer
July 17, 2008
Actor and comedian Andy Dick, who has a history of run-ins with the law, was arrested early Wednesday outside a Murrieta restaurant on suspicion of sexual battery and drug possession.

Police said Dick, who was heavily intoxicated, grabbed and fondled the breast of a 17-year-old girl before pulling her top down in the parking lot of the Buffalo Wild Wings Grill & Bar about 1:15 in the morning.

“The victim was traumatized by this,” said Lt. Dennis Vrooman, spokesman for the Murrieta Police Department.

Police later found one gram of marijuana and one Xanax anti-anxiety pill in Dick’s pocket. He was arrested and later released on $5,000 bail.

It was the latest in a string of encounters that Dick, 42, has had with authorities. The former star of the comedy series “NewsRadio” was cited last year in Columbus, Ohio, for urinating in public. He was kicked off the set of “Jimmy Kimmel Live” for repeatedly touching fellow guest Ivanka Trump. In 1999 he drove his car into a telephone pole and was charged with possession of cocaine and marijuana.

Calls to his manager were not returned.

Vrooman said police had already warned Dick about his intoxication before he went to the restaurant. Officers had encountered the comedian while responding to an altercation at the Corner Pocket Sports Cafe in Murrieta about 9 p.m. Tuesday. They told him to leave or face possible arrest on public intoxication charges. He left with five or six friends.

Dick, who listed his address as Woodland Hills, told officers he was in town to attend the funeral of a friend’s father.

Later that night, Dick and his entourage arrived at the Buffalo Wild Wings and began drinking, police said. He was recognized by several patrons, including the alleged victim, who approached him.

Vrooman said the girl, who is from Murrieta, tried to talk to Dick but backed off when she realized how intoxicated he was.

Sara Lidman, one of the restaurant managers, would say only that Dick was in the bar with friends.

Police said that when Dick left he spotted the girl and her friend in the parking lot and shouted, “There are the girls!”

“He groped her breast with his right hand, then pulled down her top,” Vrooman said.

The teen’s friend called police.

When they arrived, they found Dick in the front seat of a Honda pickup truck heading toward a nearby Sam’s Club parking lot.

Officers stopped the truck and forced all the men inside to line up so the girl could identify the man who allegedly groped her. She pointed to Dick.

A search of his pockets turned up the Xanax and marijuana. He did not have a prescription for the Xanax, police said.

Vrooman said Dick was belligerent at first and then answered officers’ questions.

On Saturday, Dick was spotted at Pepe’s Mexican Restaurant and Cantina in Canyon Lake in Riverside County.

“My understanding was that he was drinking soda water and was not drunk,” said Pepe’s owner Marty Gibson. “There was no altercation that I heard of.”

Dick was arrested on suspicion of sexual battery, possession of a controlled substance and possession of marijuana, and he may yet be charged with public intoxication, Vrooman said.

He is scheduled to be arraigned Aug. 12 in Murrieta.

david.kelly@latimes.com

Times staff writer Harriet Ryan contributed to this report.

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Too Late for Kate

bon — Thu, 24 May 2007 19:55:40 +0000

Another video on BPD even longer over 1 hour.

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Video on BPD

bon — Wed, 23 May 2007 19:58:40 +0000

This is a pretty good video about BPD – especially about how it feels to someone with the disorder. It is fairly long – 40 mins or so.

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