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The Octomom, Kate Gosselin and the need for love
I haven’t written anything about either Nadya Suleman or Kate Gosselin in my blog, because I really don’t know that much about either of them. However, recently I have been watching each of them a bit and trying to figure out what the heck is up with them. Each has a multitude of children, conceived by in-vitro. Each seems to desire public approval/affection. I am not suggesting either of them has Borderline personality Disorder (BPD), because I don’t know enough about either to suggest that that condition (of which I write about in this blog) is even suspected in either. I have seen others suggest a variety of conditions for…
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Tough Love Reconsidered with BPD
Does one use tough love with BPD? You can’t START with tough love, because first emotional trust has to be established.
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Kids of BPD – or kobies
Recently, I noticed that one of my list members created kobies.org – which is a site dedicated to kids of Borderline Personality Disorder parents. My own kids represent part of this group. What I found was that his site was sending me about 3 times the traffic I was sending him. So, I wanted to highlight his site: www.kobies.org. Enjoy! (ok, if you’re a kid of a BP you might not be enjoying, but hopefully it will help). UPDATE: www.kobies.org seems to not longer be available. I don’t know why as of yet. No related posts.
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A Critical Analysis of the “3-C’s” of Being a Non-BP
Often I see in the support groups on the Internet (especially the “Welcome to Oz” or WTO groups), people providing the “3 C’s” of understanding your role as a Non-BP. I’ve seen it quoted on BPD support websites too. These “3 C’s” go as follows: I didn’t cause it I can’t control it I can’t cure it While these statements are generally true, I’d like to take some time to analyze these statements and add a fourth “C.” I’d also like to tell you what you CAN do – rather than what you didn’t or can’t do. These statements help take the onus off the Non-BP for any responsibility for…
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Emotional Glasses for Liars and Tantrums
After reviewing Mrs. Treasure’s article on BPD and Demonic Possession, I decided to read at least some of her other posts at AssociatedContent.com. I wanted to find out if she had posted more on Borderline Personality Disorder and why she decided to post on the disorder in the first place. I think she must believe that her new husband’s ex-wife has the disorder, because she wrote another article called “10 Ways to Handle a Difficult Ex? Focus on Borderline Personality Disorder” which refers to the person with BPD as “she” throughout. I’m not going to agree or disagree with the content of that article. I also found an article called…
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Parenting with a BP Spouse
I wanted to start re-posting on my blog and the subject of the day is parenting style. I have noticed that there seems to be a conflict between the parenting styles of a person with BPD and that of a non’s spouse. It seems that (maybe because of the invalidation that the BP has experienced) the BP is likely to be harsher with punishments and more likely to invalidate a child’s feelings. I don’t know if this is because the BP sees the emotional volatility reflected in a child’s behavior and is guilty about it or because they never learned to deal with a child’s emotional swings in a way…