Comments on: Are Borderlines Evil?

By: melissa

melissa — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 06:42:57 +0000

I spent two years with a BPD boyfriend and the only words that can describe my life with him are, hell on earth. Its not the raging, the blaming, the storming off and break ups that rip you apart. Its the vicious cycle of controlling your mind leading you to actually start questioning your own sanity and start believing you are the problem. are they monsters – evil? thats a word choice. I do believe that the psych community will eventually reclassify this mental illness to something much more severe and catastrophic than it is today. when I read a post by a BPD telling me they are hurt by these words and they are victims, my stomach turns. I have been lied to so man times by a BPD I will ever trust a word they say. Intertwine your life with a BPD and you will be damaged. Period.

By: Bon Dobbs

Bon Dobbs — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 19:05:25 +0000

I’m glad you found something that eased your pain.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 18:35:09 +0000

I’m 41 yrs old, and I have BPD. I’m a missionary, loving the Lord Jesus Christ and devoted to serving others. I had a sad and traumatic childhood, which left me with BPD. Before I gave my life to the Lord, I was in constant pain, grief, and emotional and mental agony. I felt deeply hurt and abandoned. I was responding with intense anger to any signs of rejection, neglect or disrespect. My life was a pure misery full of intense emotions, fear, and loneliness. I desperately needed love, unconditional, perfect love, the kind of love I did not receive as a child, but I could not find it in another human being. I found healing in the love of God and a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. I’m still healing, but thanks to that parental unconditional love I have received from God, which I missed as a child, and unconditional love, support, and patience from therapists and friends, I have been growing. My personality is developing, and I feel more and more like a healthy adult who can control emotions, judge things rationally and respond to others in a healthy way. The abandoned child that I was for years could not do this. It is normal for children to show intense emotions, think black and white, and act irrationally. The childhood trauma stunted my development and I walked into my adulthood with a mind of a 3 year old. Life is very hard when you are developmentally 3 or 4 but everyone else sees an adult. That’s what BPD is about.

By: Tina

Tina — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 10:05:15 +0000

As a Borderline female who is happily in love, it makes me sad to see that people refer to us as “evil” and unable to feel things like love or compassion.

I may have my off days but I try to do well for myself. I respect my boyfriend’s choices as well as my own. I am happy a lot of the time. I don’t just think of myself.

We are people too, not monsters.

By: Bon Dobbs

Bon Dobbs — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 15:10:00 +0000

Baron-Cohen also says that that there is a difference as to WHY these groups display little/no empathy. BPD is because of over whelming emotions that can be assuaged.

By: jim

jim — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 02:21:07 +0000

Zero-negatives are the pathological group. These are people with borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. They are capable of inflicting physical and psychological harm on others and are unmoved by the plight of those they hurt. Baron-Cohen says people with these conditions all have one thing in common: zero empathy.

By: jim

jim — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 00:13:53 +0000

Yes, they are people too. God loves all of us. Dangerous is too hard a word. Each of us has so much to offer on this earth. Treatment is the answer with gods assistance. It takes a special person to be able to understand this person and stay healthy. Only thing that will work is unconditional Love to that person.

By: Bon Dobbs

Bon Dobbs — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 20:35:16 +0000

Are they not people too? Are they to be judged as “dangerous”? I wonder about such comments. Why do you think they are never happy?

By: jim

jim — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 03:43:19 +0000

Very difficult person to have in your life. They are never happy with any person, place or thing. That includes you. It is never about any one person but them. They will make you sick to be around them. They suck the life out of everyone they are with. They don’t change. They never want you to do well. If you are hurt or injured they will never ask you how you are. God forbid you marry this person. To have a friend or family member with this its more then most can handle. They will always disappoint you. Cut your losses and move on. You will always loss. Move if you have to. This is the worst. Pray all the time. Get new friends, no call no write or txt. It is poison to you. Dangerous.

By: michael

michael — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 07:04:26 +0000

yes. bpd is short hand for evil. what else would you call it? mean. abusive? cruel? my wife has bpd. she almost killed me. it took me four years to figure it out. bpd. borderline personality disorder. run.

By: kelly

kelly — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 19:44:06 +0000

…and maybe a new disordor should be separated from Bpd. It could be called MALadjusted Clairvoyance Disorder. }

By: kelly

kelly — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 19:33:32 +0000

I empathize with BPDs that don’t show any of the signs of the word possession but I can’t dismiss the consideration. I have seen very strange sequent of events that seem other worldly – manipulation at a supernatural level. She’s been adept at tarot cards and I’ve seen her make jaws drop with her readings..several times. Part of her is rather orthodox in her Christian Faith though and has expressed reservations as to the danger of tarot cards and the likes. Her spooky side has subsided significantly since she’s been off Meth, another part of the possible mix for a bpd – the first being the possession part There is something like 10 possible symptoms with something like 5 require for a BPD diagnosis. Most bpds don’t exhibit these trait. But too many do for this to be ignored.

Maybe one answer is that some bpds are more susceptible to evil gateways like tarot, which seems to be another not so insignificant part BPD literature out there as a trait for some bpds; ie clairvoyant.

The spiritual dimension should not be ignored and distinctions should be investigated between mental illness and obsession ( heavy demonic influence) and possession. St. Matthew made the distinction “they presented to him(Jesus) all sick people that were taken with divers diseases [poikilais nosois] and torments [Basanois], and such as were possessed by devils [daimonizomenous], and lunatics [seleniazomenous], and those who had the palsy [paralytikous], and he cured them” (iv, 24).

The evangelist discerned between lunatics and possessed, Why can’t Psychology?

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 11:35:45 +0000

As someone diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder I find the article comparing BPD to demonic possession to be both disturbing and sadding. The author shows a vast ignorance of BPD and mental health conditions in general. I am not a violent person and I have never been suspected of demonic possession (or any other kind of supernatural phenomenon).

By: Gord

Gord — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 22:04:26 +0000

Not all borderlines are monsters. Some people that exhibit the obnoxious behavior might just be mean nasty people

By: R Wenner

R Wenner — Sun, 16 May 2010 21:15:55 +0000

I take issue with the first poster on this page protesting a perceived lack of love by the “loved ones” of BPDs. One only has to consider the terrorized and brutalized children of the BPD parent to see that while these may wish to have affection and respect such a parent, it is impossible because the BPD parent (most often the mother) is emotionally treacherous, jealous, and manipulative; such that adult children are either completely cowed by them or else “divorce” (cut all contact and communication) with the BPD parent merely to salvage their own sanity or normality.

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