Thanks for your great blog. I shared it with non-BP SO the other day (that’s right, I’m the BP), and I hope he’s been reading it.

Your comments on Amy Winehouse seem right on to me. I’ve thought she was BP since *before* I’d ever read anything about her personal life–I made that judgment just based on the lyrics to her Back to Black album. I happened to be listening that album a lot right after I started thinking I might have BP, and I affectionately dubbed it “my borderline album.” The whole thing is filled with descriptions of self-destructive behavior (alcoholism, relationship-destroying infidelity, etc.), self-loathing (“I cheated myself, like I knew I would…you know I’m no good”), and general relationship problems. I wasn’t at all surprised to read that she’s had physical fights with her husband, self-injures, is an alcoholic, etc. I really hope she gets help.

Also, I think Amy’s “I cheated myself” song–even just the chorus–gets a lot of BPD pathos just right. See, i think BPs frequently hurt others and act out to reinforce their belief that they’re inherently evil people. Because if they’re not inherently evil, then maybe it’s just the world that’s unstable and evil, and that’s harder to deal with than your own evil. At least then, it’s controllable/understandable in some way. My own upbringing was extremely chaotic and dysfunctional but to this day, I still think of all of the problems in my childhood as being my fault–on some level I knew this isn’t true–but I just can’t rid myself of that view. I think that’s easier to accept than the truth that it was painful and scary for reasons outside of my control.

Sorry for the long post, but hopefully it’ll help someone!