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Considering the future
I was thinking about it and discovered the following ways of thinking (there be may be more, but this is what I have for now). I am sharing this as a first look into where I am going with my latest book on achieving psychological, cognitive and emotional freedom in your life. “If only” If only is a way of thinking in which the person says to themselves “I would be happy or content, if only a certain thing occurred or if only I had a certain thing.” It is a way of objecting to the unfairness of the world. It is a form of projective, delusional thinking… Like, “if…
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The Octomom, Kate Gosselin and the need for love
I haven’t written anything about either Nadya Suleman or Kate Gosselin in my blog, because I really don’t know that much about either of them. However, recently I have been watching each of them a bit and trying to figure out what the heck is up with them. Each has a multitude of children, conceived by in-vitro. Each seems to desire public approval/affection. I am not suggesting either of them has Borderline personality Disorder (BPD), because I don’t know enough about either to suggest that that condition (of which I write about in this blog) is even suspected in either. I have seen others suggest a variety of conditions for…
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Bon’s doing phone support
I have decided to add phone support to my bag of tricks today. Here’s how it works… Step 1: Click on the “Buy Button” and purchase a number of hours of phone support. Step 2: I will authorize your payment, but not charge you (debit cards may not have the money available though) Step 3: I will send you an email with a set of times that are good for me and you can deicide on one of the times or suggest others. Step 4: I will set up a temporary conference call number with a code into which we both will call. Step 5: We will have the phone…
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Nice Comment from Someone with BPD
The other day I received a nice comment from a woman with BPD. She told me that she was planning on revealing to her long time significant other that she has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She said that she was planning on giving him 2 books – “When Hope is Not Enough” (my book) and “I Hate You Don’t Leave Me”. She was hoping that her SO will better understand her by reading these. Personally, I was flattered. To have my book used in that way makes me quite gratified. Here is a quote from the end of her message to me: Another thing that I really…
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Success and the Path to Effectiveness
Over the past two days on the ATSTP Google Group, I have been happy to see some success exhibited. Many people on the Internet and on Internet email supports lists for Non-BPs will tell you that there is no hope of having a relationship with someone with BPD. Often I have seen that the only “advice” given to Nons is: RUN AWAY! Even on the “staying” sites and sub-sites, many people think that it will never get better EVER – which to me is a form of black-and-white thinking that Nons engage in. While hope may not be enough, the BP/Non-BP partner relationship is not without hope at all. This…
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A new book from Bon
Today, I published a new book called “But I Love You: A Primer for Understanding a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder.” This book is a even quicker quick-start guide to BPD and being a Non-BP than my other book “When Hope is Not Enough.” “When Hope is Not Enough” is 185 pages and packed with examples, conversations and frequently asked questions about BPD. “But I Love You” is only 50 pages and represents a distilling and reorganization of the material presented in “When Hope is Not Enough”. Basically, what happened was that one of my list members (of the ATSTP Google list) found that my first book was frustrating…