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A brief note about a new book
Recently, Randi Kreger published her new book “The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder.” I read it and have to give thanks to Randi for providing it to me gratis. Thanks Randi! At the same time, I have a problem with this book. While it is MUCH better than “Stop Walking on Eggshells” (SWOE), her previous book about NON-BPs, I agree with her prescription about 40%. Her sections on “Communicating to be heard” and “Reinforcing right behavior” are agreeable, the rest is NOT agreeable to me. I will soon offer a true book review of this new book; however, I believe (humbly) that my book WHINE is a MUCH…
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Safety and Insecurity in BPD
I have a list member who is a big fan of Al Turtle. Mr. Turtle (great name BTW) is a relationship consultant, not specifically dealing with BPD, but in relationships in general. What I found out through this list member is that Mr. Turtle and I came to the same conclusion about a certain experience. This experience is the “safe” and “unsafe” experience. While I deal with this on the BPD level, Mr. Turtle does so in general – and he calls the “lizard” of a person. The lizard is the emotional brain of an individual. Because it’s the primitive brain, it is lizard-like. I personally can’t go with the…
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Tough Love Reconsidered with BPD
Does one use tough love with BPD? You can’t START with tough love, because first emotional trust has to be established.
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One-night stand turns ugly
While this article is not specifically about BPD, there is some mutilation in it (not self, but of a boyfriend), so it may be triggering to some. Here is long article on it and here is a link to a shorter article with pictures (be warned!). ‘Blackburn woman tattooed lover with Stanley knife’ 8:50am Saturday 31st January 2009 A WOMAN used a Stanley knife to carve her name on the shoulder of her lover while he was asleep, a court heard. Dominique Fisher, 22, of Blackburn, has gone on trial accused of unlawfully wounding Wayne Robinson, with whom she had a drink-and-drug fueled four-day fling after meeting in a nightclub.…
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Decision making on Colbert?
Video of Jonathan Lehrer discussing his new book How We Decide on Colbert Report.
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Ian Curtis and BPD (or another disorder)
Rarely do you find an individual artist who expresses his/her emotions and pain as clearly as did Ian Curits. He was the lead singer and song writer for the band Joy Division. In May of 1980, two days before their first U.S. tour, Curtis hung himself in his kitchen. Joy Division reformed as New Order and had a major impact on dance/rock music. But Joy Division was an amazing band. Curtis’ lyrics read like a suicide note. He had epilepsy and the medication he was taking for it supposedly depressed him. The lyrics on their two albums (Unknown Pleasures and Closer) are fought with pain, shame and depression. Two years…