-
Updated Stats from Search Engine Keywords
Well, I haven’t updated my stats in a while so I thought it might be interesting to do so. The last 30 days I had the following stats: Celebrities with a PD rose to 53% of the traffic – it’s amazing what people are interested in. BPD General rose to 26% of my traffic. This is due in part to my running a Google AdWords campaign on the term “BPD” to try and get my book, When Hope is Not Enough: a how-to guide for living with and loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, into the hands of more people. Coping was about the same as in the past. I…
-
Some resources on the web
I have discovered some resources on the web that may help those with BPD (and those nons who are in a relationship with someone with BPD). These resources are: Mass General Hospital Mood Charting (thanks to Tides…) DBT Skills Help: Emotional Regulation Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com … from Borderline Personality From the Inside Out Mindfulness Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com Distress Tolerance Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills… from dbtselfhelp.com DBT Family Skills Training… from middle-path.org You can gain access to more DBT resources, to other pertinent files, and to advice from me and other group members by joining the ATSTP (Anything to Stop the Pain) Google Email List. No related posts.
-
Values vs. Emotions
Often in my Internet group people mention that they feel that the difference between people with BPD and Non-BPs is that they have different “value sets.” I disagree with this understanding of BPD. It’s not about values. It’s about emotions. In my opinion, emotions will trump values just about every time, especially in someone who does impulsive things under the influence of strong negative emotions. Emotions operate on a more “primal” level than do values. In WHINE, I quote Peter Steinke’s Healthy Congregations: When stress and anxiety are high, the R (reptilian) system is exaggerated. In other words, people become more thoughtless, more instinctive, and more automatic. The same is…
-
Couple’s Counseling and BPD
Many times I’ve seen Non-BPs mention that couples counseling doesn’t really work for them. One member of an Internet support list I used to be a member of posted a message about his BP “snowing” the couple’s therapist. In fact, just about every message (of hundreds) was about this subject. Clearly, Non-BPs are upset about the dynamics of couple’s counseling and feel that they get “dumped on” by the BP. The Nons end of feeling blamed for everything. When this subject came up in the ATSTP group recently, I turned to a knowledgeable member about this subject. She posted the following message (which I’ve edited slightly because I wanted to…