Comments on: Self-injury Report http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/ Help for partners and parents of people with Borderline Personality Disorder - Non-BPs Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:04:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: V.S. http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-799 V.S. Fri, 08 Aug 2008 13:35:05 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-799 That's a more complex question than it seems. He is always in emotional pain when he feels like he's done something wrong that deserves punishment. That's when he's inclined to self injure. He is rarely in emotional pain at a time when he also does not think he deserves punishment. I think this is probably because he usually is either in emotional pain due to the shame of having done something "punishable", and on those occasions when it wasn't originally, the speed with which he does something he does regret can be pretty amazing. He also has a tendency towards thinking he deserves punishment because of an abusive father, so even if he hasn't done something he'll end up feeling that way from that sometimes, for no current external reason. I cannot think of a time when he's been in emotional pain, but not thinking he deserves punishment, and self injured. The closest I can find in my memory is suicide threats brought on by the possibility of abandonment. But this might be because he just never gets far away from feeling like he deserves punishment. That’s a more complex question than it seems.

He is always in emotional pain when he feels like he’s done something wrong that deserves punishment. That’s when he’s inclined to self injure.

He is rarely in emotional pain at a time when he also does not think he deserves punishment. I think this is probably because he usually is either in emotional pain due to the shame of having done something “punishable”, and on those occasions when it wasn’t originally, the speed with which he does something he does regret can be pretty amazing. He also has a tendency towards thinking he deserves punishment because of an abusive father, so even if he hasn’t done something he’ll end up feeling that way from that sometimes, for no current external reason.

I cannot think of a time when he’s been in emotional pain, but not thinking he deserves punishment, and self injured. The closest I can find in my memory is suicide threats brought on by the possibility of abandonment. But this might be because he just never gets far away from feeling like he deserves punishment.

]]> By: Bon Dobbs http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-797 Bon Dobbs Fri, 08 Aug 2008 13:08:08 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-797 Well, self-punishment can be a reason for self-injury... but more often than not it is for pain relief. I wonder if your husband self-injures when he is in emotional pain? Well, self-punishment can be a reason for self-injury… but more often than not it is for pain relief. I wonder if your husband self-injures when he is in emotional pain?

]]> By: V.S. http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-794 V.S. Fri, 08 Aug 2008 10:53:53 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-794 My husband regularly claims that his self-injury is self-punishment for real or imagined sins. Occasionally he seems to think that I want him to hurt himself in order to punish him (and he gets genuinely confused that I'm not impressed by his attempt to punish himself for hurting me). I think that his behavior is *also* a way of making himself feel better via endorphins and such. The two aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. My husband regularly claims that his self-injury is self-punishment for real or imagined sins. Occasionally he seems to think that I want him to hurt himself in order to punish him (and he gets genuinely confused that I’m not impressed by his attempt to punish himself for hurting me). I think that his behavior is *also* a way of making himself feel better via endorphins and such. The two aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive.

]]> By: Abz http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-768 Abz Tue, 22 Jul 2008 01:57:29 +0000 http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/2008/07/21/self-injury-report/#comment-768 Im glad you like the pic and the explanation for it. I used the picture on my other blog and 80 people replied to it, so many people relate to it. The common misconception is that people who self harm wish to die, it is actually their coping strategy to live. Hope you drop by again.... Abz Im glad you like the pic and the explanation for it. I used the picture on my other blog and 80 people replied to it, so many people relate to it. The common misconception is that people who self harm wish to die, it is actually their coping strategy to live. Hope you drop by again…. Abz

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