What separates my book from SWOE and other popular Non-BP Books?
What separates my book from SWOE and other popular Non-BP Books?
Well, first of all… I am still with my BP wife of almost 20 years. Many books (including “One way ticket to Kansas”, “Tears and Healing” and “Stop Walking on Eggshells”) are written by people who are no longer with their “BP’s.” I have found a way to live peacefully beside my BP (diagnosed BTW). Also, I actually tell you exactly HOW to talk with your BP, to effectively deal with someone with BPD - unlike these other books. I tell you exactly what to say and how to say it. I tell you how to get your feelings noticed and inserted into the conversation.
Try it… you’ll like it (or maybe you will not like it… It is not an easy road… believe me, I know) .
Share ThisBon Dobbs :: Jul.01.2008 :: Resources, Borderline Personality Disorder :: 2 Comments »
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Sounds great! I struggle with using good communication techniques and validating language. How goes the book on validation?
Border Life,
Hi. Thanks for stopping by. Yes, validation techniques and validating language play a HUGE role in my book. I spend over 25 pages (in a 184 page book) on validation, invalidation and validation techniques. I personally think that emotional validation is a key tool in communicating effectively. It sets the stage for being understood, understanding others and communicating your own feelings to others. Here is a quote from one of my readers (who is a professional in the DBT/BPD space) about the validation section of my book:
Disclaimer: I just downloaded WHINE. I have not read the entire book.
However, the section on validation is excellent, excellent, excellent!
For some reason, I’m always deeply impressed when someone actually
understands this concept. Not only is validation explained in a
complete way but sample conversations are also given with suggested
validating language.
This section alone needs to be required reading for any loved ones of
persons diagnosed with BPD.
I “hope” that you’ll get a copy for yourself and perhaps recommend it to friends and/or family who want to communicate more effectively.
Thanks!
Bon