My Technorati “authority” keeps rising - thanks!
Well, thanks to all of you who read my blog and link to it, my Technorati “authority” keeps rising. When I first placed that gadget on my page I think my authority was at 2. It is now (as of today) at 28 - of course I just saw a guy at Technorati who has an authority of 22,110 - holy moly! Anyway, thanks.
I was also reviewing the search terms that found my blog again. I found these to be either funny or sad (or both), my comments are in parentheses:
- bpd pity party (I wonder if this is from a BP or a Non-BP?)
- bpd spiritual issue (Not likely)
- dealing with evil ex wife (They’re all evil aren’t they?)
- using bpd for sympathy (Talk about invalidating environments!)
- who the fuck is pete doherty, self-mutilation (Wow, great search term)
- how will i know i’ve been hypnotised? (You’ll know)
- is your husband demon possessed (Probably)
- when will i get my stimulus check (Check with the IRS, I’d say)
- body temperature and bpd (Huh?)
- “therapist doesn’t like me” (That makes me want to cry… time to get a new therapist)
That’s all for now… at least it’s a change from “celebrities with borderline personality disorder” and all it’s variants.
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“using bpd for sympathy (Talk about invalidating environments!)”
Uh…YEAH. WOW!
Im going to roll two comments into one so this might come out a little disjointed. In a previous comment you mentioned the “Bitch boards” and how many nons dont seem to want to understand…they just want to be mad and hurt. That search term sounds like a non that just wants to be mad and hurt. I dont understand that. I understand hurting but I dont understand how, once you know that someone has an illness why…instead of remaining pissed would you not do one of two things.
1. Find out as much as you can about it as understanding is healing IMHO.
2. Look at how you got yourself into that postion in the first place.
ON #1: How can you be mad at someone that is sick? It’s not like they would chose to be that way. Its not like they would chose to do things that hurt other people and then feel the shame of that choice. And the only way you can come to that conclusion is to UNDERSTAND the disorder. “Normal” people do not chose to do things that would cause them shame. I certainly don’t. And I know…beyond a shadow of a doubt…that my loved ones are FULLY aware of what they have done to hurt me and I know that they do actually feel bad about it…maybe not all the time as there is a lot of “justification” that goes on with this, but…they do feel bad about things they’ve done/said.
ON #2: We nons are not fully “normal”. We have our issues as well that get us enmeshed with people that behave this way in the first place. Some people just dont want to look at themselves that way. It is far easier to “play the victim” than it is to actually look at how/why you allow certain behaviors, manipulations, moodiness, suspecting lies, etc.
Back to BPD for sympathy? WHAT a laugh. Clearly someone that doesnt “get it”. If someone tells you they have BPD it is not for sympathy IMO. With public opinion being what it is and the ENORMOUS amount of “run run run away from this evil person” bullshit out there this kind of admission is more likely to engender the “run away” response which would be a bad thing. From my experience…when a person with BPD wants sympathy they have far better ways to get it than to say OH…BTW…I’ve got BPD…feel sorry for me.
Julie shakes head as she clicks “submit comment”
OK, hi again and thanks so much for the comment. Soon my comment count will exceed my post count - weird. Anywhoo…. as for #1 yes, the person is mentall (or IMO emotionally) ill. I’m not sure there are ANY “normal” people. Shame sucks and it’s painful. I saw a study that showed that people with BPD feel shame 14 times as often as “controls” (people w/o BPD).
As for #2, do you think Nons are different that other people? My first opinion was that they are - then I started looking around and thought “well maybe very few people are taught emotional skills” or whatever. My kids have this program in school that is teaching them emotional skills (and some other things including managing impulsivity).
There is one person on WTO who is a divorced wife of a supposed “BP” husband. Based on her description he is not BP - he’s either NP or just an ass. After 2 1/2 years after the divorce she still wants to bitch! Time for acceptance?
And Bon shakes his head…
BTW, Julie, I don’t know if you wanna join our support list? It’s quite different than WTO. We have about 200 members and maybe 10-15 that post regularly. They are quite wise I must say.
If you do, you can request it at http://groups.google.com/group/ATSTPGroup/